Sharing “What does she mean when she says “you should have chased me harder”? Responses

Hello Everyone!

I am sharing an odd question and the responses to the question on Quora. I responded to this question, mine is response #5, yesterday while I was on my evening walk. I am not fond of people who manipulate or play games in a relationship. Why not shoot from the hip and just be direct with what you want? There are not enough people in the world who are just honest and direct. I find a lack of honesty and communication to be highly frustrating. As of this evening, there are ten responses. I have them all quoted with the name of the author at the end of the quote. What would your answer be for this question? Leave it in the comments or write out your response in Quora. Here is the link to the Quora page if you want to review for yourself and/or respond. Check them out and see what you think:

Link to the Question Posed and Responses On Quora

QUESTION POSED: What does she mean when she says “you should have chased me harder”?

RESPONSE #1:

“What does she mean when she says ‘you should have chased me harder’”?

“Look, she’s not flexible. She’s structured and hard headed, and has to have her own way. Love is like a back and forth dance. A good, flexible lady will get that, and won’t have a temper-tantrum if she has to chase you sometimes. You don’t want a structured lady like that, anyway. Unless you think being bossed around for the rest of your life would be enjoyable. There are a lot of miserably married guys out there. You don’t want to become one of them”. -Benjamin Moldovan

REPLY:

“All clever women that like men chasing women know that they don’t run too far ahead… if a man knows he won’t catch you… eventually he’s gonna stop trying”. -Ryan James

RESPONSE #2:

“It means she was an idiot and making you jump through hoops. There is no guarantee that if you had made even one extra phone call, it would have changed anything. You dodged a bullet. Any woman who cannot admit when they like you, will struggle to have a real conversation about anything in life, and it will be like pulling teeth to get any intimate connection. Women who are “together” and are good catches, don’t behave like this. They have no problem discussing difficult topics with ease and finesse”. -Melissa Thompson

RESPONSE #3:

“If I would have chased my high school crush harder, I would probably be married to her. But instead I believed what she told me and despaired. Now, decades later she is a widow and I have been married forty years and am a grandfather. She is still beautiful but not playing mind games on me”. -Marc McNab

RESPONSE #4:

“In the context you wrote, it seems she was playing hard to get, and you didn’t pursue her enough. She wanted you to keep chasing her until she gave in. Don’t you just hate people who play games?” -Paula Jablonka- Binder

RESPONSE #5:

“When a woman says that to a man, it could be an excuse for avoiding your advances. She is trying to reject you softly. It also could mean that your advances were not obvious enough for her to acknowledge. She didn’t take the hints that you like her. Sometimes we confuse a guy hitting on us for just being cool. This may have been overlooked and now she is dating a guy who was obvious with his interest in her. She is telling you that it is too late for a relationship since she is already in one. Next time, step up your efforts. I wish you luck!” -Leslie M. Jasper

RESPONSE #6:

“She was just using you for attention stop contacting her and move on”. -Throw Away

RESPONSE #7:

“It means don’t give into her demands and STOP CHASING HER! – A girl who is truly interested in you won’t make you jump through hoops, not even one! You are a king bro, and you deserve a queen!” -Bahaa Soliman

RESPONSE #8:

“It all depends on the female really. But off jump, I’d say, she’s meaning you should have tried harder to get her attention, to show her you were into her.” -Monika Cook

RESPONSE #9:

“If you were really interested in her you would not have given up so easy. It is like if you don’t succeed try try again.” -Creeppig

RESPONSE #10:

“You should have tried harder to get or keep her.” -Donna Marie via Attraction & Success

I see that the responses vary to a large degree. Some people suggest that the guy should have worked harder. On the other hand, others say to stop chasing the woman. I am humored by the one responder who didn’t even answer the question. Instead, he spoke about his own life with a high school crush. I giggled on that rant. I believe Benjamin’s response goes in a rather extreme direction about being hard headed and not flexible. He is running wildly with a story with limited information. What do you think about the posed question? Are you on the team of chase harder or walk away? Do you think the female was manipulative? Do you think she was just being honest with her feedback? If you have a comment on the situation, leave it down below. I would be really interested if you have a totally different unique take on this question. Wherever you rest your head in the world, I thank you for stopping by my blog to review my thoughts on the topic at hand. I am wishing you a good hump day from the streets of New York City and have a good rest of the week!

Cheers!

Leslie M. Jasper

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