Advice On People Who Mirror The Behaviors Of Others

Photo Credit: http://www.Alamy.com Stock Photo

Hello Everyone!

I had forgotten that I had originally started this tidbit of advice, on Quora, and it was sitting idle in the draft section. Well, it is high time to pull out this writing, edit it, and get it shoved right out to Quora-land! I try to only respond to questions specifically requested for me to respond. However, I am not above offering unsolicited advice. People either take it or leave it. I will try to answer a question even if I think the author is messing around with me. Regardless, I try to tackle it in a serious manner. You never know if someone is really struggling with a choice and my viewpoint helps them make a proper decision. This question is asking if mirroring another person’s behavior is intended to make the other person feel comfortable? The short answer is NO!! I see nothing comforting or helpful about manipulating a situation in order to get another soul to drop their guard and become open for the other person’s bidding. This type of a scamming human should be eliminated from the planet via being thrown into an active volcano! I’m dead ass serious about it!! I have done some reading on these folks in an effort to understand them and properly avoid them the next time around. They all have appeared to have suffered some form of trauma as a young person. Therefore, they pass on the trauma to any person that crosses their paths. The cycle then continues when they taint each person along their life path. If there was a way to stop these kinds of toxic people, I would love to see them all stopped in their tracks. Here is the posed question and my amateur input. Mind you, I am not a college educated “shrink” at all. I merely offer my logical thought process that is based upon my encounters with these types of people in my 45-years on this Earth. What do you think on the topic? Do you think the same or differently? If so, how would you approach the scenario? As always, drop a comment in the section below this post. If you have a topic suggestion, by all means offer it below. Check out my feedback here:

POSED QUESTION:

“When someone mirrors your behavior, does it mean they like you or are they just trying to make you feel more comfortable?” –

Sofi Beall

MY RESPONSE:

“They: a) just happen to share the same similar traits as yourself b) are working hard to mimic your behavior to showcase similarities in an effort to draw you in. Once you are drawn in, they can manipulate you further. They only “like you” because you serve as a benefit for them. Nothing more, nothing less. Before you know it, you are paying their car note or doing tasks that they don’t want to do. Even worse, you could marry and divorce this person and end up paying them child support or alimony for years! I certainly hope, for your sake, that they just happen to share some common behaviors and are a great fit with you for a relationship. It is absolutely terrible to get caught up in the web of lies that are shot out from a narcissist. I have dealt with that breed of human, over the years, in different capacities. Sadly, they bring nothing but games, drama, and manipulation to a relationship. In a romantic capacity, the love bombing comes in the very beginning. They appear to the the calmest, kindest, most generous, and funniest person alive. It feels too good to be true. If you go as much as 3–5 years without a single argument or problem, it very well may be a red flag. The systematic, emotional abuse and constant feeling of not being “good enough” follows once they believe that they are “in” your life. If anything happens they are displeased with, they will do evil, sneaky things behind your back or withhold the bedroom action for years, if they have to, in order to get what they want out of you. Sadly you initially believed that you meant a lot to the person. Once you are locked under the person’s claws, you see the real person. Later on, you realize you are just a human that is there to do their bidding. The scariest part is the realization that what you thought they were is all a big, fat lie. You then realize that the person you lie next to night after night is a total stranger! Any one who purposely tries to mirror your behavior is not doing it to make you comfortable. On the surface for a split second, I’m sure it is flattering to have someone go out of their way to make themselves appear to be a “perfect match” for you. Once you get past that, it is not cute or endearing. That person is just manipulating you to get what they want. You may or may not benefit from this relationship. Usually you lose big time with this type of person. I can think of no scenario where mirroring behavior is comforting. Mirroring is just all around creepy and manipulative. I sincerely hope you can escape the clutches of anyone trying to remotely mimic your behavior and then ruin your life. I wish for you nothing but a healthy, loving relationship. Leave those toxic people behind. Success is the best revenge! I wish you luck!”

-Leslie M. Jasper

https://www.quora.com/When-someone-mirrors-your-behavior-does-it-mean-they-like-you-or-are-they-just-trying-to-make-you-feel-more-comfortable/answer/Leslie-Jasper-3?prompt_topic_bio=1

I thank you for stopping by my little world to either read and/or listen to my “work of art”. Are you looking forward to the upcoming holiday weekend (if here in the U.S.)? For my peeps not in the U.S., this upcoming weekend is the 4th Of July. It is a Federal holiday that came as a result of the original colonies gaining their independence from England. Perhaps we can drill down into the history of that holiday closer to the upcoming weekend. As I mentioned before in earlier posts, I had a busy weekend that involved work and checking out the Housatanic Brewery. I have posted videos, from the weekend, on previous posts as well. I still have residual back pain from the weekend activities. As stated a million times previously, I appreciate feedback, comments, and suggestions. I wish you a peaceful evening on your side of the world. You are appreciated and I hope you get a laugh or two our of my tall tales and detailed observations. I shall harass ya again soon enough so have a fabulous Tuesday evening and upcoming Wednesday morning (unless you are already up and ready for work)! Peace out, Cub Scout my friends! 😛

Cheers!
Leslie M. Jasper

-Author And Host of the #VerballyDisastrous podcast now alive on many platforms that include: Acast, Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Castbox, Deezer, Google Podcasts, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Pandora Podcasts, Player FM, Pocket Casts, Pod Bean, Podchaser, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Radio Public, Soundcloud, Soundtrap, Spotify, Stitcher, Tune In, and YouTube.

-The Audio Blog: Verbally Disastrous Podcast And Construction Tales Blog. Now available on: Acast, Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Castbox, Deezer, Google Podcasts, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Pandora Podcasts, Player FM, Pocket Casts, Pod Bean, Podchaser, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Radio Public, Soundcloud, Spotify, Stitcher, and Tune In.

#AnastasiaTaranenko, #Fiverr, #Tad_Art, #PandoraPodcasts, #Soundtrap, #ConstructionTales, #audio, #intro, #fun, #hot, #mess, #creations, #Connecticut, #NewYork, #family, #foolery, #podcast, #Spotify, #VerballyDisastrous, #new, #topics, #howto, #secrets, #women, #powerful, #strong, #shorts, #men, #teen, #trynottolaugh, #edgy, #realistic, #explicit, #mature, #shocking, #thoughtprovoking, #fresh, #dark, #mustwatch, #Soundcloud, #YouTube, #Johnny, #creative, #IABX, #Reddit, #community, #Leslie@VerbDisastrous, #strongwomen, #womaninconstruction, #empower, #gender, #ICanDOIT, #femalerenovator, #renovation, #project, #womanconstructionproject, #strong, #slideshow, #2013Project, #learnbywatching, #girlpower, #sheetrock, #tape, #electrical, #plumbing, #tile, #dust, #dirt, #debris, #basement, #paint, #renovate, #insulation, #hihats, #wiring, #metalstuds, #screws, #workout, #Johnny, #promo, #videos, #creative, #sons, #discusswithmom, #topics, #Tom, #openconversation, #Johnny, episodes, #LotLizard, #AmazonPrime, #video, #documentary, #Netflix, #gorillaglue, #gorilla, #glue, #spray, #gorillagluewoman, #hair, #hairsurgery, #LosAngeles, #DrObeng, #plasticsurgeon, #alcoholic, #drinks, #testing, #episodes, #release, #soon, #alcoholic #samples, #RevelStoke, #NewAmsterdam, #PinkWhitney, #WickedPickle, #BirdDog, #blackberry, #whiskey, #vodka, #99Bananas, #OleSmokey, #Tswoooh23_, #videogaming, #streaming, #OSHA502, #renewal, #trainthetrainer, #RIT, #Anchor, #Breaker, #GooglePodcasts, #PocketCasts, #RadioPublic, #article, #life, #apprentice, #ComedyCentral, #skit, #JessaReid, #ApplePodcasts, #Deezer, #Podchaser, #PodBean, #TuneIn, #Castbox, #PlayerFM, #iHeartRadio, #Stitcher, #Acast, #PodcastGang, #PodcastAddict, #ziplining, #AdventurePark, #presskit, #SayNoToRapists, #JusticeForUwa, #NotAllGirlsPlayWithDolls

#Scholastic #nonfiction #bookstagram #DropEverythingAndRead #SpringBookFair2021 #LoveOfReading #Reading #ConstructionTales #books #funny #NYC #podcast #Spotify #VerballyDisastrous #bookfair #bookjoy #ReadAnywhere #LoveToRead #AllForBooks #Adult #FBF21 #LBF21 #BEA21 #IKBF21 #KLF21 #HKTDC21 #GBF21 #IIBF21 #LATFOB21 #SIBF21 #FILBO21 #EIBF21 #BAIBF21 #MIBF21 #BIDLDSP21 #BS21 #BBF21 #HIBF21 #IBTAF21 #IBBF21 #ITEF21 #JLF21 #JIBF21 #LBF21 #NDWBF21 #TiBE21 #TIBF21 #BCBF21 #LIVREPARIS21 #SDLDM21 #HBF21 #FIL21 #IIBF21 #SBF21 #BuchWein21 #VIBF21 #ADIBF21 #AIPF21 #bookstagram #book #bukuislami #b #bukumurah #islamicbookfair #buku #booklover #bukusejarah #buchberlin #booklove #cher #bookshelf #internationalbookfair #bookholic #jualbuku #jualbukumurah #reading #obralbuku #bukuindie #bukujogja #tokobukumurah #buchmesse #langka #pasarbuku #bukulangka #bhfyp #jualbelibukuonline #onlineshop #jualanonline #booklovers #anresbooks #readingbooks #booksofinstagram #boekuitstalling #buch #bookish #buchberlinkids #tokobukuonline #boimela #lesen #bookworm #poetry #gontor #fbm #bazarbuku #bookreview #berlin #read #writer #berlinerbuchmesse #buchmesseberlin #author #instabooks #boekverkoping #virtualbookfair #bookaddict

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s