Advice On “Just Being Mean” To Others

Hello Everyone!

I collided with this request for advice on being perceived as “just being mean” to another person. This is another question that I am unclear if they are legit or breaking my chops. I responded since there are some folks who say things that are “the truth” and get feedback that it is “mean”. They scratch their head trying to figure out how to change the approach and not offend the other person. It is a challenge when you perceive what you have said as the “absolute truth”. The person perceiving it as mean doesn’t want to accept reality. On the other hand, it is probably an observation that wasn’t needed? This is the case when all parties know the truth deep down yet don’t want to acknowledge it. I do understand the concept of being truthful yet perceived as being mean in my own life. I believe I am perceived as a straight shooter who is not about any form of bullshit. Over the years, I try to exercise caution and dial back the truths. Especially when it comes to sensitive people. When you get wrapped up in trying to convey the truth, it is not really heard, people cry and wine about it, and it works to systematically alienate others. When it comes right down to it, is it worth it to always be right? What are your thoughts on this topic? Are you considered a person who tells the truth and receives pushback? Or are you the person that is too sensitive with the daggers that others throw at you? Leave your feedback down below. Here is the posed question and my feedback down below.

POSED QUESTION:

“When someone says ‘You are just being mean’, what does that describe and as opposed to what do they mean?”

by Ibrahim

MY RESPONSE:

“On the surface, it sounds like a sensitive person is claiming that you have a habit of periodically coming across as mean from time to time. Meaning you have demonstrated behavior or issued words that were received as “mean” or “cruel” from the recipient who is calling you mean. You may honestly believe that what you did or say was harmless. You may have even spoken the truth. To many, the truth can sound and feel quite cold and ugly. However, the recipient interpreted your words or behavior as mean. You either provide your reasoning and your side of the coin. Maybe you can eloquently offer your angle. If your position is not logical, just apologize and move on. If you have a habit of pushing the jokes a little too real, read the room and take the cue to dial it back. Not everyone can handle “truth” or ribbing. As unbelievable as it is, you can alienate yourself from others by telling the truth. Yes, it is ridiculous. Are you truly winning if you manage to alienate everyone around you? Nah, back off, lay low, and keep it moving. I wish you luck finding balance”.

Leslie M. Jasper

https://www.quora.com/When-someone-says-You-are-just-being-mean-what-does-that-describe-and-as-opposed-to-what-do-they-mean/answer/Leslie-Jasper-3?prompt_topic_bio=1

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