What Do You Do When You Perceive Your Friend As Being Walked On?

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Hello Everyone!

I hope you are doing exactly what you want to do this weekend. Hopefully, the weather is decent on your side of the globe today? Yesterday afternoon, I met up with my friends to celebrate a birthday with lunch. I opted to have some clam chowder and some clam balls. I tried to eat light since I was going to the Brazilian restaurant later. Later on that night, I met up friends and family at Fogo de Chao to break bread and socialize at the Brazilian Steakhouse. I enjoyed watching everyone feast like crazy and tell funny stories. I was insanely full when I walked out of there!! I had some delicious thres leches cake and expresso for dessert. I have to fast for the rest of the damn weekend to offset the Saturday night feast. I got to connect with my buddies (they’re like brothers to me) that I worked with for years and had not seen in awhile prior to our dinner date. It was great to meet up with them! I just released my latest podcast Episode #28: The Pregnant Construction Chick!? this past week. I shall share the link for the video on my Verbally Disastrous YouTube channel down below. Let me know in the comment section how do you handle conflict? Now, here is a question, that I believe came from a person who believes that another person is being walked on. The guy responded with a smirk. Yes, it has some similarities to the previous Quora question about using a smirk.

It is possible that the guy she is referencing is being walked on by another person. However, that guy needs to be free to make his own choices. I don’t believe that this was a troll question. What do you think about other people trying to intervene in another person’s relationship? At what point would an intervention be merited? I personally believe that intervention should only happen if a person is being physically abused or an underage minor being poorly treated. Other than those situations, they are big enough to handle themselves. It is just best to stand on the sidelines and offer advice only when asked. I know the writer is very concerned for the welfare of the guy friend. The relationship needs to be explored until either party has had enough and wants to end the situation. It is their risk and reward to seize and endure. I also believe that we gain much experience from navigating through these relationships. Despite the challenges, we learn what we like and do not like in another person. Our friends, with good intentions, can taint a great relationship, cause chaos, and cause a premature decline in a relationship. I believe the energy wasted on someone else’s relationship can be saved to go towards the person’s own life. As I have said a bunch of times, it is good to have these types of forums to kick the tires with other people on these types of questions. Here is the posed question and my response below.

POSED QUESTION:

“Why would this person smirk after I told him to not let anyone walk all over him, does he take care of it, was it all a game?”

Intergalactic Witch

MY RESPONSE:

“A smirk is a playful, passive aggressive approach to dealing with feedback from others. I believe the smirk is his way of saying he knows what he is doing. Here is the definition of passive aggressive, in reference to his smirk, in case you are not aware of the definition:

passive aggressive (adjective)-

1. of or denoting a type of behavior or personality characterized by indirect resistance to the demands of others and an avoidance of direct confrontation, as in procrastinating, pouting, or misplacing important materials.

Perhaps in his mind, he is not being walked over and is in control of the situation. He believes that he is taking care of it in his way. It is not a game to him in his way of handling his situation. He is aware that you are concerned and letting you know in his way that he is taking care of it. He is also aware that you are watching the other side and available as a support system for when he has had enough and pushes the eject button. Just support him as a friend/relative and allow him to make his own choices. If she/he ends up walking all over him, all you need to do is be there for him. It is his risk alone that he is taking. We all develop experience from making mistakes. I wish him luck with his choices and you luck with being the silent supporter.”

Leslie M. Jasper

https://www.quora.com/Why-would-this-person-smirk-after-I-told-him-to-not-let-anyone-walk-all-over-him-does-he-take-care-of-it-was-it-all-a-game/answer/Leslie-Jasper-3?prompt_topic_bio=1

Episode #28: The Pregnant Construction Chick!? is on the Verbally Disastrous YouTube channel

Well, let me know your thoughts about this topic by dropping feedback or just show some support? I try to wake up and write first thing in the morning so here it is again. I also write while laying on my sheet in the sand while catching some sun and enjoy the summer. I still can’t believe that we are half way through the summer already. Make every day count and enjoy your free time with our loved ones. Therefore, have a fabulous Saturday morning either solo or with friends and/or family. It is time to enjoy the weekend however you do when your family depends on you. Try to keep cool and safe this weekend people! Peace out, Cub Scout!

CONSTRUCTION TALES- TOLD BY A WOMAN: (6) SHORT STORIES ON AMAZON!!

I just released another short story this week on working while pregnant back in 2004 with my youngest son. I now have shared (6) short stories to my Kindle Vella Library. They are short stories that will become the makings of my next book within the #ConstructionTales series that will be entitled, Construction Tales: Volume II: My Illuminated Path Continues.. Construction Tales: Told By A Woman by Leslie M. Jasper- short stories for Kindle Vella on Amazon:

Construction Tales-Told By A Woman For Kindle Vella on Amazon

Cheers!
Leslie M. Jasper

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