Advice: How To Manage People Issuing Negative Comments

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Hello Everyone!

How are you holding up on this Sunday afternoon!? Now that Super Bowl Sunday is actually here, what are your plans? Are you betting on the Rams or the Bengals? As I mentioned before, I’m heading over to my buddy’s spot to watch the game. I have to tread through the snow, get some White Claws, and head over to his house for the game at 6PM. People are betting $$ on the game. I will live vicariously through the people betting on the game since I’m cheap as hell. I’m looking forward to the half time show! Now, I’m sharing my son John Collazo’s desire to build his, “Call To Action Marketing” #CTAMarketing brand and get into becoming a marketing expert. I’m sharing his brand logo and profile picture that can be found on his social media platforms down below the advice. I appreciate the help with networking with him on social media. Let’s speak about this latest round of advice. This piece of advice is about how to handle a person speaking bad about you. You have to think about as to why they are speaking bad about you? Who is this person? Where does this person fit in your world? What is the root of this bad advice? After some deep digging into the person and their motives, you can get a better idea on the motive for the negative feedback. I’ve always said that most successful people do not waste time trying to tear anyone down. They are too busy climbing and working on chasing their goals. Usually the people who feel compelled to divert energy from their own path to focus on another path are not happy. In a weird way, I feel sorry for that person. What is the best way to tell a miserable, negative person to stop wasting energy elsewhere and get back on the horse of their own path? It is hard to do without insulting them. Perhaps it is just as hard to give a person good constructive feedback while bypassing some pent up emotions. This is why it is best to take in all criticism and offer no emotion. For those looking for emotions, you starve them of what they seek. If the feedback is helpful, then you benefit. If it is not helpful, turn them into mere words in your mind. When you think about a person who goes out of their way to get an emotional reaction out of you, they are not focused on their own path. If they are not focused on their own path, then they are not working on their goals. If they are not focusing on their own goals, they will become stagnant and unhappy in their life. Sometimes we need to assess how we fell off the horse and focus on getting back on the horse. Focusing on what another person is not doing right is a distraction from your own progress. In a way, I feel sorry for people who would rather give feedback on what others are not doing right and not focus on their own pitfalls and how to get back on their own path. How do you react to negative comments? Do you starve the haters of emotions or are you feeding them? Let me stop discussing this topic and share the posed question and my response down below:

POSED QUESTION:

“What do you say to the person talking bad about you?”

By Nandkishore Deopersad

MY RESPONSE:

“We all cannot get through life without people talking bad about us to some degree. The heat from criticism varies depending on what is being accomplished. If you are an ambitious, hard worker and doing well in life, it happens even more. You have to ask as to what is the root of the bad message? I look at it like I have harmed no one along my life path. If anything, I try my best to encourage and uplift people in need. Therefore, the bad comments do not stem from accusations on evil deeds. Perhaps the person doesn’t like my approach, via using words and/or actions? My approach somehow ruffles their feathers. You have to step back and take a logical, non-emotional approach as to who is speaking badly about you. Who are they? Where do they fit in your life? Are they on the outside? Are they offering constructive criticism? Is the critic giving you a view and matching feedback that is vital to improving your efficiency within your business? Are they criticizing you from the couch? (those people are the worst!) Why is this critic frustrated with you? Instead of approaching you directly, they speak with friends, in your mutual social circle, and are counting on the critical issues getting back to you at some point? Those kinds of people are toxic who should be cut off as much as possible. If you don’t have courage to give feedback to a person directly, you have no business speaking behind a person’s back. More often than not, highly successful people are not the folks who are speaking poorly about you. Most of the people who are speaking poorly are not happy within their own realm and have not achieved the same level of accomplishments. Instead of focusing their energy on their own goals, they waste energy on critiquing your actions and goals. Often times, it is best to just take the “advice” on the chin and keep it moving. If you give a reaction, you are going to give the person what they wanted in the first place. Perhaps they want to see you react in either an angry or emotional manner. Go ahead and starve them of what they seek. If the person is looking out for your best interest, then thank them for the feedback, write it down, and think about it when it doesn’t sting you emotionally. If it is for your best interest yet stings, it will make you better in the long run so that is good. React the exact same if the feedback is not intended for your best interest. Anyone can react crazy to criticism. A person who can harness their emotions, within the winds of negativity, are a force to be reckoned with in life. If you allow yourself to be semi-blinded by emotion, it will slow down down your pace and momentum. Life is entirely too short to allow anyone else to slow down your momentum. Don’t let anyone slow you down to where you are now down to their speed. You will have accomplished what the critic set out to do. The bigger the “Army of Trolls” builds up behind you, you must be doing something right. Yes, people tend to kick others when they are down. However, the level of energy your personal “Troll Army” wastes to get your attention is impressive! When you think about it, it is sad that they feel so compelled to dedicate and waste their precious energy reserves on your life path. It is at that point where you may pity their plight. These same people absolutely can’t stand to see people doing better than them! We all have the same 24/hours in a day. Some people make the most of their valuable time while others allow themselves to waste time being idle or fear of failure or lack confidence. Many paths in life require a tremendous amount of grit and determination. People don’t see that grind; they just see the fruits at the finish line. In order for you to not get consumed by the critics, you must view it differently. It is actually even more amazing that complete strangers on the internet make it their life mission to tear fellow strangers down. There must be this sense of power when you perceive that you hold another person’s emotions “hostage”. It’s important to let that negative energy slide off your back like rain water and keep climbing with the same energy and pace as before! May you have much success and continued determination! #ConstructionTales”

By Leslie M. Jasper

https://www.quora.com/What-do-you-say-to-the-person-talking-bad-about-you/answer/Leslie-Jasper-3?prompt_topic_bio=1

Hopefully my advice blog post helps someone out today. The goal for today is to encourage a person to keep grinding and climbing. Let me know if you agree or disagree with my advice? If you hold a different position, why do you believe the way you do? Hopefully, I helped the author with managing another person with either criticism and/or just negative feedback. Anyways, I’m also sharing my latest (8) podcast episodes that are listed down below from The Verbally Disastrous Podcast, via links for Spotify & YouTube down below. If you are into reading on a Kindle, check out my newest short story release that belongs to my Construction Tales-Told By A Woman Kindle Vella Library short story series on Amazon down below. This new short story #11 is entitled, “Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools”. This short story covers my life as a widowed, single mother in the era when I juggled both motherhood and my career as a journeywoman electrician. The previous short story is #10 is entitled, “Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice”. If anyone has read any of my other previous short stories, by all means, let me know what you think? Check out the links for my book #ConstructionTales down below. Hopefully, I will hang out and do some fun activities with Melissa this weekend. I need to go focus on a little more pimping out my content on social media, some tasks, and then tackle my painting and my children’s audio book. Enjoy your Sunday now that we are basking in the last day of the weekend. I wish you a great morning/afternoon/evening on your side of the globe and a restful or productive day!

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I recently shared my latest short story that has been loaded up to my Construction Tales-Told By A Woman Kindle Vella Library on Amazon. This is short story #11 entitled, “Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools”. This short story covers my life as a widowed, single mother in the era when I juggled both motherhood and my career as a journeywoman electrician. I share the various challenges I faced and lessons learned along the way. The previous short story is entitled: #10: “Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice”. I decided to write about some life lessons such as guarding your personal information, managing nasty rumors, combating sexual harassment, gender discrimination, and racism. Overall, the construction culture has improved dramatically over the past 25-years. Developing both a thick skin and a sharp tongue are key tools needed to survive various jobsite antics. I hope you learn something from this short story. There are more to come. These short stories are now also available as Verbally Disastrous podcast episodes.

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Cheers!
Leslie M. Jasper

-Author And Host of the #VerballyDisastrous podcast now alive on many platforms that include: Acast, Amazon Music, Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Castbox, Deezer, Google Podcasts, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Pandora Podcasts, Player FM, Pocket Casts, Pod Bean, Podchaser, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Radio Public, Reason, Soundcloud, Soundtrap, Spotify, Stitcher, Tune In, and YouTube.

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