Are you braving the bitter cold and wind on this miserably cold Tuesday evening!? I’m counting the damn days until we enjoy spring again! It’s so close, I can metaphorically taste it! It’s not bad when it is 40 degrees Fahrenheit and above. Hey, check out my 16-year-old son John’s “Call To Action Marketing” business; it will also be known on social media by the hashtag #CTAMarketing. If you could find him under his name and business name and connect with him, that would be highly appreciated. For this blog post, I’m offering some good ‘ole fashioned advice that I posted to Quora. Let me know if you appreciate my advice? I’m open to topic suggestions if you offer them to me. This topic is on the meaning behind when people say that they “speak their truth”. I sometimes laugh heartily when I hear the phrase that comes before the avalanche of bull$hit! As a kid who grew up in the 80’s, I have never heard anyone get away with saying “their truth”. If you heard that, you knew that the spin was coming! What’s wrong with the actual truth? When we were little, we were told that it is important to tell the truth. There were no various versions of the truth! It was only one version that was acceptable. This is why it is hard as hell to accept varying degrees of the truth. It almost sounds blasphemous to be manipulated into thinking there may be variations of the truth. What is your knee jerk thought when you hear that phrase uttered? I’m interested in knowing your input on this doozy of a topic request. Drop it down in the comment section below. Without giving much more of the store, let’s read my view on the topic. Check out the posed question and my own response down below:
“What do people mean when they say they “speak their truth”? How do you go about speaking your truth? What’s it take to speak your truth?”By Barbara Young Capalbo
“Well, I believe that this is a relatively new phrase that people in society use. Sometimes, my eyes roll in my head like a slot machine when I hear that phrase. I sometimes anticipate tall tales and long shot excuses that contribute to “their truth”. The absolute truth of a situation would be what I would call the “North Star”. The North Star is an unapologetic, unbiased, raw, and real sequence of events that don’t give a $h!t about your feelings! Yes, the North Star only cares about the cold, hard facts and not about some ridiculous feelings! The North Star doesn’t side with either party, omit any facts, nor does it skew a side of the story. I’ve learned that when a person is speaking “their truth”, it is not necessarily a “lie”. It is the side of the story based upon one’s particular viewpoint. The person’s truth comes from their unique lens that they view life from. This unique lens is comprised of a culmination of life experiences. Everyone’s lens is rather unique since we all do not walk the same path. In a way, society is acknowledging that we all view our truth a little differently. This truth can be perceived as the Bible for some and an absolute smear campaign for others. Are we better off, as a society, for now having massive exposure to various versions of “the truth”, courtesy of the internet? I do find some value in analyzing an individualized version of “their truth”. After an analysis of many personal truths, it almost appears that “their truth” is way more in the grey area than I would have ever even considered in the past. I have viewed the truth as black and white. It either is or it isn’t the truth; sinner vs saint. I sometimes perceive that society gives people a “hall pass” to excuse a person and “their truth”. Meaning- a person’s past makes them a “victim” of current circumstances; hence, giving a skewed view of “their truth”. I believe that having versions of “their truth” makes today’s society way softer than previous generations. Then you have many who view “our truth” out of an emotional scope while others have a “just the facts, ma’am” approach. I’m not a fan of using emotions as “currency” for the truth. Then again, emotions, culture, behavior, gender, etc. can cloud the judgement of many and have played huge roles for thousands of years throughout many societies towards excusing and providing skewed truths. What is perfectly normal for one culture can be perceived as obscene for another culture. When a scenario can be embarrassing, it makes sense for a party to omit sensitive/embarrassing facts when speaking their truth. It doesn’t make their truth correct; it is just how they view the truth. Key details can make a sinner look like a saint. Many people shamelessly omit key details that can make them look like the bad guy in the situation. People just need to face the fact as to who they really are in a situation. No matter “your truth”, you are still the bad guy when those key missing details come to light. I personally call those kinds of truths as “lies”. What you do is own it and keep it moving. Meanwhile, others can omit key details since their emotions and/or bias are genuinely blinding them from seeing the cold, hard facts. Yes, the truth is UGLY and that skewed version IS what they actually see in their mind! However, as I have gotten older, I’ve learned that life is not so absolute with the black versus white. In some situations, not so much mental real estate needs to be spent in the quest for the truth. In other instances, I hope a dirty thief gets their day in court and faces their bad deeds and those folks who they have damaged deeply. I have also learned that I need to provide wiggle room in my mind and try to understand the different perspectives of others. There are huge benefits with trying to understand where others are coming from. For one, if you can understand behaviors, you can start to see the behavior patterns. Once you can see those patterns, you can work to predict future behavior as well as get closer to the North Star. May your truth be as close to the North Star as possible and hopefully you can successfully dodge folks with a highly skewed version of “their truth”.By Leslie M. Jasper
Thanks for swinging by to read my advice that I offered today on Quora. You’re very much appreciated! Let me know, in the comment section below, if you either like or dislike my advice? By the way, I’m also sharing my latest (8) podcast episodes that are listed down below from The Verbally Disastrous Podcast, via links for Spotify & YouTube down below. If you are into reading on a Kindle, check out my newest short story release that belongs to my Construction Tales-Told By A Woman Kindle Vella Library short story series on Amazon down below. This new short story #11 is entitled, “Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools”. This short story covers my life as a widowed, single mother in the era when I juggled both motherhood and my career as a journeywoman electrician. The previous short story is #10 is entitled, “Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice”. If anyone has read any of my other previous short stories, by all means, let me know what you think? Check out the links for my book #ConstructionTales down below. I need to go get some rest so I can hit it hard again in the morning. Enjoy your Tuesday now that we are actively in the middle of the work week. I wish you a great morning/afternoon/evening on your side of the globe and a restful or productive day!
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Verbally Disastrous Season #1, Ep. #41: Part A- Working On The Railroad With The Tools As A Chick! on YouTube:
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Verbally Disastrous! Season #2, Episode #46:Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice On YouTube:
Verbally Disastrous Podcast! S#2, Ep. #47: Part A- Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools on YouTube:
Verbally Disastrous Podcast! S#2, Ep. #48: Part B- Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools on YouTube:
I recently shared my latest short story that has been loaded up to my Construction Tales-Told By A Woman Kindle Vella Library on Amazon. This is short story #11 entitled, “Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools”. This short story covers my life as a widowed, single mother in the era when I juggled both motherhood and my career as a journeywoman electrician. I share the various challenges I faced and lessons learned along the way. The previous short story is entitled: #10: “Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice”. I decided to write about some life lessons such as guarding your personal information, managing nasty rumors, combating sexual harassment, gender discrimination, and racism. Overall, the construction culture has improved dramatically over the past 25-years. Developing both a thick skin and a sharp tongue are key tools needed to survive various jobsite antics. I hope you learn something from this short story. There are more to come. These short stories are now also available as Verbally Disastrous podcast episodes.
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-Author And Host of the #VerballyDisastrous podcast now alive on many platforms that include: Acast, Amazon Music, Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Castbox, Deezer, Google Podcasts, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Pandora Podcasts, Player FM, Pocket Casts, Pod Bean, Podchaser, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Radio Public, Reason, Soundcloud, Soundtrap, Spotify, Stitcher, Tune In, and YouTube.
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