Advice: Is The Truth Actually Unkind??

Hello Everyone!

Now, how’s your Thursday morning going for ya?? Thankfully, after a cold start earlier this week, the weather is gradually warming up to spring temperatures. What’s happening on your side of the globe today? I’m sharing yet AGAIN that my first children’s book entitled, “Not All Girls Play With Dolls” is now live on Amazon in both paperback and as a Kindle, an iTunes e-book, and for Nook via Barnes & Noble!! As of today, the Barnes & Noble Nook e-book is STILL pending approval. Check out my standard brand hashtags that are #LeslieMJasper, #ConstructionTales, and #VerballyDisastrous. For this blog post, I’m delivering to you even more Quora advice. This subject matter may cause us to think a little deeper than normal. This next round of Quora advice being delivered to you is on what causes an “always honest” person to be unkind? As the above photo says, there is nothing unkind about the truth unless you are living a lie. I do believe that the truth can only be veiled in darkness for only so long. Eventually, the truth comes right out to the light when you least expect it. In what situations would the truth spill out as unkind? A person’s momentary bad choice that is now shaped immortally as an ugly truth? I genuinely wish people would put more thoughts into their actions than they do thinking about what to put on the grill for dinner. Good, bad, or ugly, you should ride solidly with your choices. People want to make choices then get mad and/or emotional when they are questioned later on by the Monday night quarterback. Many choices are made with limited information and major emotions on the spur of the moment. Armed with that knowledge, just know that they will be scrutinized heavily by the “perfect people” later on. Just laugh, take the “L”, and keep it moving. Just maybe it will motivate you to approach the situation differently in the future. An action that has more than one way of viewing it? Some sneaky behavior that was done in the dead of night yet had one set of eyes on it and now the entire world knows about it? Own each choice and be ready to use humor as a tool to laugh at yourself and diffuse the emotional bomb. We all make mistakes and not all decisions are perfect. As I have shared in my Quora response, the unkindness of the truth comes right down to one’s intention. Not only your intention but how is your intention translated to the other involved parties? Once everyone knows that you have bad intentions with the truth, it is no longer about the truth and more so about your bad intentions. The world would be a better place if people don’t wake up and choose violence or bad manipulative intentions. What’s your position on the topic? Are you the sensitive one to the truth? Is telling the truth your super power? Do you lose respect for people who cave into others emotional hang ups and pull back from the truth in response? The older I get, I have realized that not all need to fall on the truth sword. This is especially true if the truth is not going to do much to change the dynamics. In my younger years, I used to strongly believe that all folks should be held accountable for their words and actions. There were key people in my life, when I was younger, where I felt totally compelled to have them own their mistakes. Their response was to try to avoid me unless they wanted money. In the end, they never owned up to their behavior and passed away. Thinking back, what was accomplished by forcing a person to own their behavior? How do you make up for delayed ownership and lost time? How many times can you apologize before the situation feels settled? It takes an experience like that to realize that the juice wasn’t worth the squeeze. We should have moved on from the truth (the person repeatedly dodged the truth) since a lot of time was wasted due to not getting past sour feelings. I’ve learned that life is entirely too short to hang your hat gaining acknowledgement of the “truth”. The other person perceived me as being “unkind” for constantly bringing up the “truth”. Years later, I think, “what was I looking for? What did I gain for pushing for the acknowledgement of the truth?” Yes, I have some personal experience with this topic. That was a major lesson learned far too late and after the fact. Wisdom is gained, via mistakes over the course of many years. This scenario is totally based upon perspective as to who is “right”. For some, they would agree that the person didn’t work hard enough to make up for their absence. For others, they would say that I harped on forcing down the truth down this person’s neck for far too long. What’s your take on an honest person being considered to be unkind? What is your experience with this matter? As I have stated in previous posts, I’m willing to be wrong on my thought process. What is your interpretation of this topic? If you have a totally different thought process, by all means share it. You can share your perspective by dropping it down in the comment section below. Now, without thinking further, go ahead and check out the question and my response down below:

POSED QUESTION:

“What might cause an “always honest” person to be unkind?”

By Judith Engelstad

MY RESPONSE:

“Well, as young kids, we were always told to tell the truth. That was pounded into me relentlessly as a kid. I took that direction as face value on how to conduct myself as a kid, teen, and adult. As an adult, I find it weird how the truth can be considered as “unkind”. To me, that is some emotional Jedi mind tricks. To me, there is nothing better than an always honest person. You will always know exactly where they are and where they come from. An honest person offers facts since that is exactly what they are. This honest person doesn’t withhold the facts based upon the emotional turmoil that can be stirred up as a result of the cold, hard facts. If you don’t like the feelings that come from the facts, then perhaps you should change up your moves. For this reason, the truth is a double-edged sword. The truth is always sought after. However, some truths that are intended to reveal the needed details end up being perceived to be painful and unkind by some. The truth can be rather rough and unkind since it is raw and doesn’t consider emotions. If you make moves and don’t like when they come to light as facts, whose fault is that? If you do it, you should own it. You don’t have to soak in those emotions and wear them as a badge. You just assess it, own it, apologize if you have to, and keep it moving. The unkind truth should motivate you to do better moving forward. If the only thing you see is the ugliness of the truth, is that your problem and not the messenger’s problem? In some instances, I do see the value in not revealing the truth. If the person you are revealing the truth to will act out with violence towards others while absolutely nothing changes, then what is the point of sharing the truth? The person acting out violently sure has manipulating, controlling behavior. They know that if they react violently, then it will keep the truth from coming to the surface and keep everyone in line. It’s then wise to keep your distance from those types of people. At that point, is the truth actually unkind or is the person being unkind? This depends on your perspective and life experiences that mold your thought process. I believe that the unkind part of the truth is based upon intention. Let’s consider this line of thinking for a moment. If you intend to hurt a person with the truth and the other party knows your intention, then you are no longer telling the truth. Instead, you are using the truth as a weapon to manipulate the other party through their emotions. If you are just speaking the truth and unaware of the emotional impact, is it considered unkind or is it just the facts? The answer lies within your perception. May you be as cautious with others as you can in order to avoid the emotional pitfalls that come from the truth. Then again, you can’t possibly avoid the sorrowful trap of an emotionally laden person. Some people are looking to use emotions in order to excuse their otherwise bad behavior and portray the victim. It’s terrible to be caught up in another person’s victimhood. You become a pawn in their game. I wish you much luck on navigating around the elusive truth bombs! 🙂 #ConstructionTales #VerballyDisastrous”

By Leslie M. Jasper

https://www.quora.com/What-might-cause-an-always-honest-person-to-be-unkind/answer/Leslie-Jasper-3?prompt_topic_bio=1

I see you skidded right onto my advice post today. I thank you for offering a slice of your time. You are either going to have a laugh or ponder on the thought. It’s obviously your choice on which move to proceed with today. I believe that learning is very important for growth. Let me know, in the comment section below, if you either like or dislike my advice? Make sure to explain exactly as to your position. I’m interested in hearing the perspectives of others. I’m also sharing my latest (8) podcast episodes that are listed down below from The Verbally Disastrous Podcast, via links for Spotify & YouTube down below. If you are into reading on a Kindle, check out my newest short story release that belongs to my Construction Tales-Told By A Woman Kindle Vella Library short story series on Amazon down below. This new short story #11 is entitled, “Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools”. This short story covers my life as a widowed, single mother in the era when I juggled both motherhood and my career as a journeywoman electrician. The previous short story is #10 is entitled, “Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice”. If anyone has read any of my other previous short stories, by all means, let me know what you think? Check out the links for my book #ConstructionTales down below. I’m sharing with you my blog posts mid-morning while juggling my work duties. Now, continue to power through our Thursday in the best way that you can! I wish you a great morning/afternoon/evening on your side of the globe and a restful or productive day!

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Leslie M. Jasper

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