Hello Everyone!

I discovered, on Quora, a question that someone specifically asked me to answer. It appears to be a genuine question. I am assuming the person is young and needs advice. I believe that I tried to exhaust all of the ideas that I cold possibly think about for this response. Here is the posed question and my response as well. Check it out and let me know what you think?

POSED QUESTION:

“What are the most obvious and unmistakable signs that indicate someone is falling for you?”

MY ADVICE:

“Yes, I believe that there are some distinct characteristics that demonstrate a person is falling for another person. It is my hope that the person receiving this love has the capacity to return it just as fiercely. I am sure that there are some people who are pretty good at veiling what is on their mind or their actions. Here are some clues that a person may show if they do not mind letting their partner know:”

• Sharing of money and resources
• Giving the partner the last or only resource
• Making some form of sacrifice for the other person
• Performs random acts of kindness without being asked
• Wide open to quality time
• Giving of their undivided attention
• Relaxed personal boundaries
• Attempts to demonstrate trust
• There is a glow on the person in love
• Person exudes joy and cheerfulness
• The person reveals their good thoughts to their friends and family
• Speaks about events in the future with you in it
• Introduces you to close friends and family
• Speaks openly about matters normally private
• Always smiling, laughing, and telling jokes
• Gives loads of compliments
• Looking to be as romantic as possible
• Public displays of affection
• Always looking for intimacy/doesn’t turn it down
• Discussions about having children
• Discussions on marriage
• Actively planning to move in together
• Giving a partner a cute nickname
• Listens to what their partner is communicating
• Come up with solutions for problems
• Really values their partner’s opinion
• Tender and loving gazes and touches
• You FEEL loved by the other person!

“I believe that a person will show you and make you feel loved. You won’t have to question it when you stumble upon a person who falls for you. It will be distinct and you will KNOW how the person thinks and feels. You with not feel like you are in the dark with your partner’s feelings. If you have doubts, it is not real. I sincerely hope you find what you seek! Good luck!” -Leslie Jasper

What do you think about the list? Do you have some suggestions? Should some of the items be removed? If so, why? Let me know your thoughts by leaving a comment below. You have a bunch of options that come crashing down on you via advertising, ads, television, music, podcasts, etc. I thank you for weathering the storm and sticking around to read my content. You are appreciated! I am working on the transcript to release a two part podcast, with guests Kyle & House from On Da Block Radio, about favorite childhood memories. I am doing a group podcast episode on women who choose to not have children. Melissa and I will have special guests Vanessa and Juana scheduled for that discussion tomorrow. I am running out for an impromptu barbeque with my close friends this afternoon. I am going to enjoy the sunshine and good company. I wish you a great Thursday afternoon!

Cheers!

Leslie M. Jasper

-Author & Host of the #VerballyDisastrous podcast now alive on many platforms that include: Acast, Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Castbox, Deezer, Google Podcasts, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Player FM, Pocket Casts, Pod Bean, Podchaser, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Radio Public, Soundcloud, Soundtrap, Spotify, Stitcher, Tune In, and YouTube.

-The Audio Blog: Verbally Disastrous Podcast & Construction Tales Blog. Now available on: Acast, Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Castbox, Deezer, Google Podcasts, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Player FM, Pocket Casts, Pod Bean, Podchaser, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Radio Public, Soundcloud, Spotify, Stitcher, and Tune In.

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Hello Everyone!

I am thrilled to share that my trade sister, mentor, and boss Veronica Rose is on the NECA Innovation Overload Podcast!!  I found the podcast on Spotify and immediately followed.  Ms. Rose is the CEO of Aurora Electric here in Jamaica, New York.  Jamaica is in the borough of Queens in the City of New York.  I went to the main office today and she shared that she was on a podcast.  For anyone who doesn’t know, the acronym NECA stands for National Electrical Contractor’s Association.  Veronica is a proud union member for over 40 years and a union contractor with Local #3 IBEW.  I have made a few friends with some fellow trade women over the years.  I highly value my friendship with Veronica tremendously as a leader and a mentor.  She is always striving to push herself and she has encouraged me tremendously in the past 18-months to continue my safety training.  These are just a few nuggets that I know about Ms. Veronica.  I do not want to ruin it for you.  Go ahead and check out what she has to share on the podcast episode on Spotify:

Here is the Buzzsprout link so you can choose the podcast platform of your choice:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1544248/8470438-18-veronica-rose

Did you listen to her speak?  What do you think?  Do you find her inspirational?  She is very vibrant, upbeat, tough, caring, thoughtful, ambitious, and much more.  Make sure to follow the podcast and listen to some other electrical contractors speak.  I had no idea that NECA had a podcast.  I just shared with my son who is an apprentice.  He aspires to become an electrical contractor some day.  I am sure this podcast will be very valuable for him.  Let me know your thoughts by leaving a comment below.  You have a bunch of options that come crashing down on you via advertising, ads, television, music, podcasts, etc.  I thank you for weathering the storm and sticking around to read my content.  You are appreciated and I wish you a great Wednesday evening!

Cheers!

Leslie M. Jasper

-Author & Host of the #VerballyDisastrous podcast now alive on many platforms that include: Acast, Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Castbox, Deezer, Google Podcasts, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Player FM, Pocket Casts, Pod Bean, Podchaser, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Radio Public, Soundcloud, Soundtrap, Spotify, Stitcher, Tune In, and YouTube.

-The Audio Blog: Verbally Disastrous Podcast & Construction Tales Blog. Now available on: Acast, Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Castbox, Deezer, Google Podcasts, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Player FM, Pocket Casts, Pod Bean, Podchaser, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Radio Public, Soundcloud, Spotify, Stitcher, and Tune In.

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Hello Everyone!

I have been busy over the weekend and the first few days of the week. I have to prepare myself for the upcoming Friday podcast session. I have two ladies coming on with Melissa and I to discuss the pros and cons of choosing to not have children. They are going to share their journey in life and why they made their choice. I am also scheduling Kyle and House, from Second Shift Radio on Tune In, to discuss their favorite childhood memories. I went out socialized on Saturday evening in lower Manhattan. I had an even better time than I expected. I dodged the rain on Sunday and did a BBQ in the park with my sons. I feel like that is more fun, despite the work, than sitting in a restaurant. I have some videos that I had taken from Mother’s Day that I plan to load to YouTube this week. Our dogs Daisy and Otis were running around since the park was pretty empty. During my free time standing in line or waiting to pick something up, I will look on Quora to see if there is anything inspiring to write about. For this particular interest, I was hoping to help a young man avoid getting himself into problems with an obsessive young woman. I also plan to also share, on the next post, on a young 17-year old was dealing with the backlash of asking a 14-year old for nudes. I am sad these young kids cannot ask their parents for advice. This goal of these posts is to help a young person out and save them from themselves. When I read this question, the old 1980’s movie “Fatal Attraction” came to mind. I highly doubt an obsessive girl with no respect will improve with her behavior over time. When young women display red flags such as this one, it is wise to back out. Here is the posed question below:

POSED QUESTION:

“Why did this girl I barely know get mad when I asked her to stop texting me late at night and early in the morning? I am angry she is waking me up at night and I threatened to block her. Does anyone think she is entitled to my time or am I right?”

MY ADVICE:

“If either of my sons crossed paths with an obsessed young woman, I would advise to block her on the phone and social media. If a person you barely know is trying to tap into your time and energy at odd hours now, it only gets worse the more attached she becomes. You are right on this issue. You do not need to sacrifice your sleep or exhaust energy to entertain a strange female at odd hours. She is very wrong for assuming that this behavior is “normal”. I am sure it is flattering to have a young woman work hard to get your attention. However, your interaction already sounds toxic and invasive. Don’t let this young woman think her behavior is normal via you accepting or tolerating it. Put your foot down and demand respect. She will either back up and be respectful or keep pursuing you at weird hours. Beware of psycho girls who could very well be homicidal if it carries on too long and intense. I most sincerely wish you well on your choice and much luck!”

RESPONSE #1:

“What you are describing is common behaviour of narcissists. She’s trying to control you (by expecting you to respond immediately) and is trying to hog your time and energy. The fact that she got mad just makes it very difficult to see a different explanation for this. The normal response would be to apologise and cut it out. This person thinks you are not entitled to very normal boundaries. IMO it would be safest for you to block her from any communication channels where she can contact you”. -Eugenia Nova

RESPONSE #2:

“Undoubtedly nobody should think the “mad” girl who keeps texting you at antisocial hours is entitled to your time. This is an answer to your 2nd question. Trying to make it to the 1st question, on why she gets mad, there might be a variaty of single reasons as well as their combinations like a lack of ethical understanding, hypersensitivity caused by hormonal imbalance, too much free time, some patterns of personality disorders linked to striving for attention and recharge of others energy, difference in time zones, etc”. -Liudmila Puskunigiene

RESPONSE #3:

“Nobody can answer that better than you. It is perfectly legit to not want to be woken up at night, especially if you have work or school the next morning. I would wonder why she wants you to forego sleep to talk to her. If it’s because she likes you, “needy” isn’t the way to show it. Needy gets real old real fast. If she continues to violate your boundaries, just block her and be done with her drama. Good luck!” -Daphne Melaine

RESPONSE #4:

“just because someone texts you at night of early am is not really an issue.

1. do not answer.
2. Turn ring off.
3. tell all your friends ( or select few) you do not answer any text after 10pm or before 8am.
4. you have every right to make any rules.
5. and to block anyone”. -Toni Venneberg

RESPONSE #5:

“If you tried to establish that boundary and she gets mad, imagine what would happen if it were a more important issue in the future. I think you’re right and if she is unwilling to accommodate your request, block her and don’t look back”. -Phil Johnson

RESPONSE #6:

“You can block her, or you can put your phone on silent, or put it in a dresser drawer. I get texts at night from overseas folks who want to be clients. I simply don’t answer them after a certain time. No real point in getting heated about an untimely text”. -Isaac Clark

RESPONSE #7:

“No she is not entitled to your time. As you said, you barely know her. She is mad because you are not interested in her. Hopefully she won’t be texting you again and if she does, then block her”. -Susan Conaghan

RESPONSE #8:

“Doesn’t sound like she has any respect for other people’s boundaries. If you just met her, and you don’t need to maintain a relationship with her, as in a work relationship, I’d block her”. -Bertina Lester

RESPONSE #9:  

“The answer is very simple, she doesn’t give a damn what you think. And, she’s only entitled to your time to the extent you are willing to give it to her”. -Edmond W Bugs Jones

What do you think of the question? How about the responses? If you could offer advice that differs, what would you say? I see that, as with other posed questions and answers, they run the gamut with perspective. A lot of people share the belief that the young woman has no respect for the young man. Nor does she respect his boundaries. She is not handling rejection too well. Others offer the solution of turning down the ringer or even putting it on vibrate or silent. Shutting my ringer down is a practice that I follow at night. I would think that a woman or man who has needy behavior is annoying and not flattering at all. Perhaps as you get older, you learn to reign in your energy and offer your time and energy in doses. I do have empathy for the young lady who has not taken the hint that the young man is not interested in her. It makes it even worse if the young man is not honest with his feelings on the situation. A person on the outside never knows the relationship dynamics. Only the people in the midst are aware of the cues, signals, communication, actions, or missing items that may be vital to the direction of the relationship. Some people can be flattered by the attention and not want to make it go away. It is totally understandable to withhold information that tells another person they are not interested since you don’t want to hurt their feelings. I remind myself that relationships take practice. Even more so when you are young. It takes time to find a person who is compatible and mentally healthy for a relationship. Watch those actions and let words go in and out of your ears. Especially if the words do not match the actions. Leave some comments below on what you think about the subject. Thanks for stopping by my little world of writings. I wish you a good Tuesday evening and the rest of the week!

Cheers!

Leslie M. Jasper

-Author & Host of the #VerballyDisastrous podcast now alive on many platforms that include: Acast, Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Castbox, Deezer, Google Podcasts, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Player FM, Pocket Casts, Pod Bean, Podchaser, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Radio Public, Soundcloud, Soundtrap, Spotify, Stitcher, Tune In, and YouTube.

-The Audio Blog: Verbally Disastrous Podcast & Construction Tales Blog. Now available on: Acast, Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Castbox, Deezer, Google Podcasts, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Player FM, Pocket Casts, Pod Bean, Podchaser, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Radio Public, Soundcloud, Spotify, Stitcher, and Tune In.

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Hello Everyone!

I just spent a bunch of time the past few days working on releasing podcast episodes #15 & #16. Therefore, this post is short & sweet! For those who do not like podcast platforms, here is the latest Episode #16: Thinking Back To When We Used To Booze It On The Jobsite on YouTube:

I most sincerely wish you a good Friday afternoon and an upcoming Mother’s Day Weekend. If I just reminded you to think about your momma, you’re welcome! 😛 Don’t forget to take the trash out and finish out the work week now that Friday is here. Here comes the weekend! I shall speak to you all soon!

Cheers!

Leslie M. Jasper

-Author & Host of the #VerballyDisastrous podcast now alive on many platforms that include: Acast, Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Castbox, Deezer, Google Podcasts, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Player FM, Pocket Casts, Pod Bean, Podchaser, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Radio Public, Soundcloud, Soundtrap, Spotify, Stitcher, Tune In, and YouTube.

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Hello Everyone!

I have to break this topic up into Part A & B since it is longer than the 30 min max for the audio recording on Anchor. This is Part A of the discussion. When finished head over to Part B next to finish the discussion.

PART A:

The topic for this episode. I am thinking back to when we used to booze it up on the jobsite. One of the things we all used to do regularly in construction, drinking on the job was as normal as working.  When I was a first-year apprentice, I was sent out for beer for afternoon break.  Nowadays, there is only an afternoon break if you work overtime.  This was on the very first job in my construction career.  I didn’t bat an eye and did exactly what was asked.  As a fresh face, I know I should have found the request as odd.  However, it didn’t take long to figure out that this was “normal”.  An old timer would say to me to, “never trust a person who doesn’t drink”.  I thought about what he said.  It made sense at the time.  If someone is not willing to get down and have a beer on the job with the crew, that person could very well snitch.  I learned quickly that “snitches get stiches”.  Twenty-five years ago or more, it felt like you were an odd ball if you didn’t drink.  I knew of some co-workers who would work better after drinking all morning.  On the other hand, I used to monitor some people’s level of drunkenness.  I would not let a guy label wire pulls after about 11:00 AM each work day.  I would take care of it for him and he would do other tasks.  If I didn’t babysit him, we would end up ringing out a bunch of wires and wasting time.  Mind you, I was an apprentice and he was making a hell of a lot more money than I was making. 

It was the culture to look after people and help them avoid doing dumb stuff.  I can’t count how many times my co-workers and I have babysat drunk co-workers.  There were guys who left a beer can over each light fixture they wired.  Under normal circumstances, it doesn’t take very long to enter a wire in the fixture and splice.  This gives you an idea of how hammered these guys would get each day.  There were guys who would dump the empties down a finished wall.  I loved hearing stories about doing demo in a space years later.  While the laborer was removing the wall, he was met with an avalanche of beer cans.  It was quite normal to go to the bar as early as 11:30AM for lunch.  It was also very common to not leave the bar to go back to work.  In the trade, we called that a “nooner”.  I cannot honestly say that I never did it in my career.  I pulled that move with a journeyman back when I was an apprentice.  I got a bad layoff, my first and only ever, two days before Christmas.  I talked about that dilemma in detail in my book #ConstructionTales.  I was so embarrassed about that situation at the time.  I laugh at myself that I opened up enough to document it in my book.  I did a few extended bar sessions, during the course of my career, when I wasn’t having to rush home to get my son from daycare. 

I was on a girl’s private school job, back in 2002, where the entire crew would shape up in the job trailer and stick around till 6-7pm at night.  We would watch our general foreman drive down the road for his doctor’s appointment.  The general foreman was an absolute gentleman who was enduring cancer treatments.  My crew sure as hell made sure to take advantage of the times where he left the job.  Once his tail lights disappeared, we all gathered to drink a ton of beer.  The acting foreman was a huge drunk who aided in the whole boozing sessions in the job trailer.  It was like leaving a fox in charge of the hen house.  No Bueno.  Guys were doing cocaine on the duct work.  That job was a lot of fun and absolutely out of control with the antics.  That was a Turner Construction job where Turner was the general contractor.  The super would scratch his head and wonder why the hell the entire crew stayed on the job in the trailer for hours instead of going home?  We would often play tricks on each other.  I need a podcast episode to talk about that job alone.  I plan on writing about that jobsite in detail when I get my tail back to writing Construction Tales: Volume 2: My Illuminated Path Continues…

My favorite source of high/drunk co-worker stories come from a guy on the job nicknamed “Dirty Sanchez”.  His name was similar to his nickname and his reckless behavior on the jobsite earned him the nickname.  Dirty started out tipping back a fifth of vodka at lunch.  We would sit in our car for lunch when the weather was decent.  I would sometimes sleep in my car for lunch or heat my food in the trailer.  You would see Dirty in his car drinking straight from the bottle.  He would stumble back from the car, through the gates, and back onto the jobsite.  Dirty then graduated to smoking weed during lunch.  He would come back twisted after lunch.  I remember roughing in MC flexible metallic cable with him.  I would watch him like an expectant father.  He was not allowed in or around live panels while he was “gooned up” after lunch.  I would feel horrible, even if it is not remotely my fault, if the man got hurt during my watch.  By this point, I was a relatively new journeywoman and Dirty was my partner sometimes.  Some people have always said, over the years, that I am soothing to speak with and iron out issues.  I have saved some marriages, over the years, by giving out some common-sense advice.  At some point, Dirty shared that his girlfriend was pregnant and he was expecting his first child.  Once he disclosed his impending family, I became more perplexed by his behavior.  I realize that people react differently to stress.  I have never believed, no matter how hard the circumstances, that the bottle was a solution to my problems.  If anything, hitting the bottle each night makes your problems even worse. 

Now, I have been dealing with a bunch of back problems for the past five years, so I totally get it.  I have gone through a few procedures, doctors, physical therapy, pain and suffering, over the years just to solve the problem.  I started using a bunch of Motrin so I could not go out of my mind with the pain.  I have cut out the Motrin habit and now use Kratom & CBD as needed when I have pain.  I also realized my recent pattern of drinking each night after work to numb the pain, extreme stiffness, and manage stress last year was no good.  It was right around the beginning of the pandemic.  Upon recognizing the weight gain from working from home and the drinking, I pulled back from the bottle and started walking at night.  I recently underwent a procedure where my doctor injected anti-inflammatory fluid to some of the facet joints in my spine.  I am having great luck with much less pain than a year ago.  My point is, that you have to keep falling, wipe yourself off, and get back up on the horse, and try again.  No matter how aggravating shit is, we have to keep coming up with solutions.  Here, I think my boozing was a problem that I reigned in after recognizing the pattern.  I cannot even imagine going a lot harder than that.  Just when I think my issue is a problem, a co-worker of mine will trump it.  Back when I was working on a deck job with Dirty, we would chat while working.  What I have learned is that men on the job need someone to vent about their life.  I took pride in being an ear and a voice of reason for many of my co-workers over the years.  I am sure, if I felt comfortable, I would share parts of my life as well.  

Somehow, Dirty disclosed that he received some drugs in liquid form in the mail from California.  Prior to coming into the trade, I had no idea how many different types of drugs there are on the market.  I grew up with an overbearing father who ended up sheltering me.  My dad ruled with a tight fist and did not allow that in his house.  I never even saw him or anyone else take a sip of alcohol.  Going into the military at 17-years old was a rude awakening with the drinking!  In all fairness, I have learned about drugs from working in construction.  I had a co-worker approach me, when I was about 24-years old, with a small, white vial, with rice in the bottom of the vial, while we were working in a high school.  I asked him, “what was that?” and he put it back in his pocket.  He assumed that I “partied” and he was very wrong.  He was also trying to offer drugs as a peace offering for being a dirt bag to me when I first came on the job.  My co-worker later on explained that it was cocaine.  This dude was bold as hell for having that on his person in a high school.  About two-years later, I am on a ladder working with Dirty while he explains what is in his clear vial.  I had never heard of angel dust!!  He was highly amused by my questions and expressions of amazement and disbelief.  Dirty explained that he would use an eye dropper and put the liquid on his blunts.  He would then smoke the blunts at lunch and come back TWISTED!!!  I was like what!?!  You don’t need to be psychic to know that this will not end well for Dirty.

Despite Dirty’s reckless disregard for himself or his surroundings, the general foreman and the foreman, known on the job as the #1 & #2, did not discover his antics for a while.  Almost our entire crew would go to a well-known dive bar near the job for lunch.  In comes Dirty to join the crew for lunch.  Toward the end of the lunch where we are going back to work, Dirty pulls out a blunt.  He puts it to his mouth and swiftly lights it up at the bar.  The entire group rushed to get him to put it away!  We were not looking to get into trouble at a bar we all patronized on Fridays for lunch.  We all kept watch on Dirty as he became more and more twisted on the job.  One time after lunch, Dirty actually starts walking back to work with a Belvedere bottle in his hand.  A group of us grabbed him and told him to put the bottle back in his car.  The visual of him walking in a left and right slide to the side manner to the jobsite kicking up dirt and dust while holding the bottle by the neck.  Dirty was squinting in the sun with his head tilted to the sky looking absolutely out of his mind!!  It was around this time that Dirty’s task was a ¾” conduit run.  He needed to use the stud punch to knock out one hole for each conduit.  Dirty got distracted, staired out to the nearby parkway, and just started punching out a bunch of holes.  By the time Dirty waked up from his stupor, he had a pile of one inch round pieces of metal at his feet and an entire section of metal stud gone!!  His foreman showed up in the work area and yelled at Dirty.  It must have been hard to not laugh at the mess!  He told him, “I don’t know why the hell you did that but you better get a piece of bottom track and fix that ASAP!”

Once we finished roughing in some office sections and conduit runs, it was time for the wire pulls.  When you are on long wire pulls, there is some down time.  This work was easy for Dirty to lay low and avoid detection.  Depending on where we were in the building, we would all keep an eye on him.  Just when you think it was good low-key work for Dirty, he screws himself up.  We must lubricate large bundles of wires prior and during the process of pulling in the wire into a conduit run.  The easiest job sometimes is to give a co-worker the wire lubrication task.  Depending on the level of difficulty, wire can be pulled by a group by hand or a machine is installed in the deck or wall and mechanically pulls the wire.  We have used the hitch on a truck to pull wire when we are desperate for some help on at least one job that I remember.  While lathering the wire with lubricant, some people want to use gloves and a rag and some opt to use their bare hands.  When I was tasked with the lubricant job, I always preferred to use my bare hands.  Of course, the temptation to make jokes while lubricating wire was way too high.  I often engaged in dirty banter with my co-workers while in the middle of the task. 

It was Dirty’s turn to manage the lube on the wire pull.  Dirty did his usual routine of getting tuned up at lunch then working the afternoon high as hell.  It was during one of these moments when Dirty decided to dig into the five-gallon lubricant bucket way past his elbows.  Dirty went a bit further with the wire lubricant and was actually playing in it.  He was hallucinating and saying that pretty butterflies were coming out the bucket and he was trying to catch them.  Of course, this is when the #2 foreman stumbled upon his antics and raised hell!  He grabbed the shop steward and discovered exactly how stoned Dirty was while working.  Oh boy!!  Dirty was immediately removed from the jobsite.  The shop steward drove Dirty home since he was deemed unable to drive.  The next day, we saw Dirty returning doing the “walk of shame”.  Dirty came on the job to get his tools and collect his last paycheck and layoff.  He actually got a drug related layoff that meant he needed rehab before returning to the bench and becoming available for work for another contractor.  If I am not mistaken, I have heard that workers get a shot at rehab at least two times through our medical in the union.  I have crossed paths with many co-workers who were in desperate need of an intervention.  I know of one co-worker who I absolutely adored who could have used rehab.  He used to religiously give me rides when I had car problems as an apprentice.  They would make beer stops before the carpool ride and once the ride finished.  He was in need of surgery and tried drying out on his own at home.  He ended up dying due to a seizure, as a result of alcohol withdrawal, while at home.  I found out about his plight after attending his funeral.  He is indeed a person I miss and wish he had gotten help.

The bar scene was so engrained in our construction culture for many years, we used bars as references for jobsites.  I remember, many times at lunch, trying to pound down as many beers and shots as possible before having to return to work.  By the time I was on a jobsite around 2008, the general contractor was really trying to stop the drinking on the job.  They actually tried to patrol the bars and catch different trade workers drinking.  We managed to find this nearby low key eatery spot that served beer.  It seemed like a place that would avoid detection.  That only lasted for a short period of time.  When anyone from management found it and walked in, we would immediately stop drinking.  We were staring out the window watching the street to avoid anyone sneaking up on us.  As soon as a white hat walked in, we would push all of the beer bottles to the center of the table to avoid getting busted.  The manager, from the general contractor, would get frustrated and walk out.  We would all split up and enter the jobsite from different directions to avoid detection.  Sometimes, the general contractor had people as a checkpoint near the entrance gates looking for workers with booze on their breath.  A couple guys were pinched and forced to go home for the day.  The very next day, the same guys were back at the spot drinking beer.  It didn’t stop them.  They only learned how to be more strategic.  Sometimes, they would call a co-worker in the building and ask them at what gate were the white hats trying to bust the lunch time drinkers.  If there is a will, there is a relative!

Now it is time to pause for a moment. This concludes Part A on this topic. Head back in and look for Part B to finish the conversation. Thanks for stopping by and listening so far to the story.

Cheers!

Leslie M. Jasper

-Author & Host of the #VerballyDisastrous podcast now alive on many platforms that include: Acast, Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Castbox, Deezer, Google Podcasts, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Player FM, Pocket Casts, Pod Bean, Podchaser, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Radio Public, Soundcloud, Soundtrap, Spotify, Stitcher, Tune In, and YouTube.

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Hello Everyone!

I have to break this topic up into Part A & B since it is longer than the 30 min max for the audio recording on Anchor. This is Part B of the discussion. When finished head over to Part A next if you missed the first half of the discussion.

*UPDATE- I just released this as my very first Kindle Vella story on Amazon. Future stories will be sampled on the blog and fully released either for the podcast or Kindle Vella.*

PART B:

I always figured that I would work with the tools.  When I was younger, I had zero aspirations to get into management.  I had figured that I would just be one of the guys until my retirement.  I wanted to go to work, take pride in the creation, talk trash amongst my co-workers, poke fun at stuff, hit the bar for lunch, and last on a project as long as possible until the layoffs come.  Life works in mysterious ways.  I believe I changed my mind shortly after the 2008 recession and went back to college for my Business degree in 2009.  The huge blocks of no work really frustrated the hell out of me.  I then started to panic about the “sky falling” so to speak.  What if New York construction jobs never come back?  When you run out of unemployment, savings, and union funds, that is when the real fear set in for me!!  How the hell am I going to take care of my family!?!  It was during this recession, that made me feel like I had a very limited skill set.  I envisioned a bunch of electricians fighting over ceiling fan jobs.  There are only so many side hustles out there.  I really felt backed into a corner, like a rat in a maze, so I opted to go for more training.  I never wanted to ever feel like that ever again during bad economic times in the future.  Somewhere along the way while in night college, I decided to work towards becoming a project manager.  As a result of huge blocks of no work, I ended up really taking a leap of faith and trying out management.  I cannot even articulate into words the level of fear I had when I made that leap six weeks after leaving the tools.  My last day with the tools was March 7, 2014.  I had many thoughts racing through my mind.  What if I fail?  What if I make a mistake?  I am so nervous about the lack of available work, my sons most certainly are aware of my fear. Despite my fear, I took the leap and it worked out so far.

I landed in management for some very large electrical contractors for quite a few years.  I now work for a smaller yet growing woman owned electrical contractor.  In the past year, I have now shifted my focus into safety.  There has been a lot of elbow grease studying for the past 18-months.  My first exam was the Certified Health Safety Technician (CHST), then Associate Safety Professional (ASP), next was the Certified Safety Professional (CSP).  I just passed the New York City Site Safety Manager exam in February.  I was having to rigorously study NYC Building Code in order to pass the last exam.  The choice to evolve and continue gaining more training is something that I would have never anticipated back when I worked with the tools.  My mindset has also shifted along with my training.  I no longer think that boozing on the job is acceptable.  If I come across someone who is drunk, I will be forced to ask them to go home.  It is somewhat humorous that I evolved from a typical construction worker who drank at lunch to being the person monitoring people as well as looking out for the health and welfare of the entire project.  As a woman who has started out as an apprentice, I have seemed to earn the respect of the fellas on the job.  As I have gotten older, I see that there are more and more women in management roles.  I admit that this is something that is foreign to me.  I am not there to hurt anyone’s livelihood.  I see myself as more of a person who is looking out for the interests and safety of people on the job.  The goal is for everyone to go home to their family in the same condition each day that they showed up.

Years later, I was talking about the whole drinking on the job antics and ways of being back as an apprentice.  Sometimes, a group of us will share old job stories.  The younger people are wide eyed and cannot believe that an entire crew was drunk by the afternoon.  Anyone who is drinking on a job today must be rather discreet.  When times are tough, you must try to walk the line and not get into trouble.  I was talking to a co-worker who has always been in management.  He doesn’t get the culture at all.  Only a fellow field person turned management would have understood the job culture from over 25-years ago.  The guy was absolutely perplexed and asked me why I didn’t snitch?  I started with explaining about how the jobsite culture was, back in the 1990’s.  The unspoken rule was you didn’t have to get up from the bar stool until your foreman did.  They didn’t want you to “spook the herd”, so to speak.  Once he got up, his entire crew got up and followed suit.  I remember one jobsite, where there was a hidden liquor cabinet.  The crew would go for a refill.  On one job, we were stuck working in a ridiculously hot space.  We had this cold gel filled handkerchief we used to freeze and put around our necks throughout the day.  The job water container was filled with ice, vodka, and Sprite for the crew.  Being a little tipsy, was the best way to handle working in this greenhouse structure in the summer.  It was enclosed with all glass and didn’t get have the air conditioning hooked up.  We used to hit each other, on occasion, with either a Super Soaker toy gun or the water pump used to put water in with a coring machine.  The coring machine is a tool we use to bore holes in walls or decks.  Once a hole is penetrated, we would be able to continue our conduit run to the intended destination.

Electricians were not the only trade who drank.  Pretty much each trade was a heavy hitter with the booze.  I am sure the booze served as a means to tolerate rough jobsite conditions.  It always felt like it was very cold or super-hot and humid on the job.  The fall and spring times felt very short with moderate temperatures when working outside.  My crew was working on PVC in a trench and would go hit Applebee’s for lunch.  Once we were boozed up, the rest of the day didn’t feel so dreadful in a hot and dirty trench.  The downside after drinking at lunch was feeling absolutely tired a few hours after it wore off.  Years later, I think about all of the times where you should be looking for and avoiding hazards.  However, that wasn’t the objective.  The goal was to finish the work day and go home.  If I was in the middle of partaking with the rest of the crew, how the hell could I snitch?  The person who joins in then drops a dime would become an outcast on the jobsite.  People would avoid them socially like the plague.  Not to mention, I am reminded that I am a female.  I was a woman on the job trying to blend in with the crew.  The last thing I wanted was my name being known as the, “job site snitch”.  I was not willing to make my life harder than it already was.  Besides, I am a pretty loyal person by nature.  That was never an option when I worked with the tools. 

Now that my son followed me into construction, I worry about him picking up the same habits.  I would be hypocrite to tell him to not do something I did many times over the years.  I am glad that the culture has shifted to where hitting the bar is after work.  I know on his first job as an apprentice, he landed on a project with some notorious guys who love the bar.  He would join in for the social bonding at the bar.  He lands on later jobs and the crew has a way different vibe.  I guess it is good he gets to experience different environments.  One has to be careful with the habit to booze it up since it can age the hell out of you.  I am glad that I joined in on some moments of fun then dialed it back.  I opted to drink a bunch of water and hit the gym, after work for many years, as my habit.  I now avoid the gym, due to my back issues, and do nightly walks instead.  You can pick out who the people are on the job that always smoke and drink vs the health nuts.  The personalities of people in a crew run the gamut.  I have often said when you pick out any crew, each person can be identified as a self-proclaimed expert in different disciplines.  Electricians like to read and have a hunger for knowledge.  The average electrician is very smart but they are not cut out for the cookie cutter cubicle life.  Many guys have a rebellious streak in them that makes construction work a viable choice.  I know a few known drug dealers in the trade as well.  There is one we nicknamed “The Sprinkler” because of his antics on the jobsite.  I will discuss him in a different podcast episode.  I did talk about him briefly in the four Apprentice Life episodes with my sons recently.

I am sure that for each story I remember, there are some stories that I forgot.  I plan to have a few co-workers on my podcast to discuss some jobsite stories.  There is one buddy in particular, who is so damn funny and shares my brand of humor.  I first met him as a first-year apprentice and I was the OSHA instructor for a college course.  We met up later on a jobsite and we’re cutting it up with our back-and-forth banter.  I have another funny friend Mike, he is like a brother to me, who we both went through our apprenticeship around the same time.  I need to get him on for a podcast episode.  I would hang out on a street, in a town with a bunch of bars with Mike and others.  I would joke with him to give me his driver’s license so I know he would swing by again.  He did hand it to me, I held onto it, and he would come back later to chill  My eldest son Tom would be absolutely humored by our transaction.  Mike happened to be on my son’s first jobsite.  I go to the Yardhouse, which is a restaurant & bar, with my son for my birthday and Tom’s crew would be there.  Mike and I saw each other and hugged it out for the longest.  Tom would ask, “how we know each other?”  We would say that we “grew up” together in this business.  I have made a bunch of lifelong pals in this business while socializing at the bar.  If I could go back, I probably would not change a thing.  Well, maybe I would change my personal struggle a bit.  Maybe I would have connected with a good person back then, I would not have suffered so much.  Then again, a struggle builds character. 

I am sure I can go on about funny jobsite stories.  However, you have had enough of this dosage- for now!  Let me know if you have some similar stories to share?  What do you think about the old culture of drinking on the job?  Would you participate, if you had the chance?  Let me know why you don’t like it, if that applies.  Do you have a topic suggestion for me?  If so, leave it on my website and I will consider it and work to produce some content.  As always, I thank you for choosing to carve out your free time and spend it on my work.  For the mothers out there, I hope you have a great weekend.  I hope your family comes up with something thoughtful and doesn’t force you to cook on Sunday.  Have a good day and try to enjoy the sunshine wherever you are in the globe! By for now!

Cheers!

Leslie M. Jasper

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Hello Everyone!

I went ahead and created a Verbally Disastrous podcast episode about the last post on the topic of love. I also decided to load it to YouTube as well. I know there are some people who don’t want to choose a podcast platform. Therefore, I have added to YouTube. Here is Episode #15: What Does It Mean to Love? on YouTube:

Of course, as I have said many times, I welcome feedback on any of my content. Let me know your thoughts? If you have some topic suggestions, let me know as well. I am going to release another podcast episode this week. I need to figure out what I want to talk about. I will refer to my list of topics on Episode #2: Upcoming Podcast Topics to see what I want to discuss. Enjoy your Wednesday evening and have a great week!

Cheers!

Leslie M. Jasper

-Author & Host of the #VerballyDisastrous podcast now alive on many platforms that include: Acast, Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Castbox, Deezer, Google Podcasts, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Player FM, Pocket Casts, Pod Bean, Podchaser, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Radio Public, Soundcloud, Soundtrap, Spotify, Stitcher, Tune In, and YouTube.

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Hello Everyone!

I have decided to write on and share the topic of love that I found again on Quora. More specifically, does a person become mentally weak while in the throes of a passionate love? Love indeed has much power and impact on people. I am pleased to see that the responses come in a wide variety. I really like the thought and consideration that Garry Rocco put into his response. No subject quite impacts people from all walks of life quite like love. Love and death are the great equalizers in life. Check out the exact question below and the six responses down below the question.

Here is the link below to Episode #15: What Does It Mean To Fall In Love? on Spotify:

The Verbally Disastrous Podcast With Leslie M. Jasper & Melissa Polito | Podcast on Spotify

POSED QUESTION:

“Do you think that those who fall in love are mentally weak people?“

MY RESPONSE TO THE QUESTION:

“Love is what most humans on this Earth seek. Love yields much power and can seep into almost every aspect of our lives. Love is not exclusive to poor or rich people or a particular part of the globe much less any form of demographics. Love is the one “possession” that can make a poor couple feel rich. A lack of love between a rich couple can make them feel “poor”. Love is the theme of many products and services. There are books, songs, movies, tv shows about it. Love can start a fight or smooth over conflict. Some people seek love their entire life and never find it. Other people have stumbled upon it yet don’t recognize it properly. Meanwhile, others have faced such terrible experiences and then proceed to spend the rest of their lives trying to avoid any part of love. Perhaps a huge part of me thinks that people who fall in love are mentally weak. After all, being in love is one of the few times where you are not in control of your emotions or actions. Love can bring a strong man or woman down to on the knees. Love can dramatically change a person’s behavior. I believe in the power dynamics of each relationship. This is where one partner loves the other a little more. I believe that love is equal in few relationships. The partner who loves less has more leverage on the relationship. The partner who loves more will endure far more nonsense than they would if they loved less.

People take advantage of a person’s love in many different types of relationships. The question is: who is the fool in that scenario? Is the fool the person taking advantage while being with a loving partner or the person who is blinded by love and looks away from bad situations? Can you be sensible when you are in love? To what degree do you behave differently when you are in love? Do you have the willpower to walk away from someone you have fallen deeply in love who is toxic? On the other end of the coin, what would life be like if you never felt the strong emotion of love? Do you want even just a taste of real love deep down in your soul? Does love make the struggles of life easier to endure? On the other hand, when a person is out of a toxic relationship, life is much more peaceful. This is because your mind is not wandering and thinking about your partner’s behavior.

We all must walk this life with a different set of circumstances. This includes a unique childhood that has molded and shaped us to adults. If our parents had a bad marriage and were trash examples, we may then grow up expecting the same bad behavior from partners. If either of our parents fell short of expectations or our own experiences were bad, that can skew our view on life. Having the role model of parents in a great marriage will make you think you can mirror it in your own relationship. Love yields much power and impacts people in different ways. Many people have went to prison because of toxic love. Can love weaken a mind? Yes, it can force the hand of vicious acts. Can love strengthen a mind? Yes, ask a cancer patient who uses the power of love to overcome the battle and come out a survivor. Love has much power that must be recognized and respected. Once recognized, try to move accordingly in a strategic manner. Always try your best to not hurt anyone in the name of love. Try your best to use love wisely. I sincerely wish you much luck!”

RESPONSE #1 TO THE QUESTION:

“You are on the right track, but mentally weak might be too simplistic to accurately cover it. The key to it is the word, “Fall”. If you have ever fallen before, several or many times, you recognize when it is your fault that you fell, or when you fell due to external causes, like someone intentionally tripping you, or an obstacle suddenly gets in your way, or a banana peel. It’s important to distinguish between the two types. When you claim you have fallen in love, or you see what you think someone else has done in falling in love, you are mistaken in your choice of words. There is no way you can “Fall in Love”, at all. The feeling that those who claim to have fallen for “the One”, is “Infatuation”. “There is a very big difference between infatuation and being in love. Infatuation is when you first see someone that you are attracted to and immediately feel there is a connection based on that, whereas love is knowing the good and bad of someone and still loving them all the same.”

The power of Charisma, an ill-defined and misunderstood magnetic draw to another is rooted in—-to return to your ‘mentally weak’ query—-a ‘hole’ or several of them in yourself. When seen in the cold light of day, objectively—-unfortunately when the affair is over—you can usually find those things missing in you that you found compelling, obsessively so, in the other. The traits that the other has are picked up almost unconsciously, by your perception of their looks, achievements, body, their eyes, speech, grace, and most assuredly by their sexiness. None of those attractions amount to love. And the annals of failure in several dates, weeks, months or a year, Male/Female relationships over many millennia, attest to the fact it was never Love at all. If you feel like you have fallen into a singular Infatuation— and you will disregard this sound advice I am certain—-at least try and bring in the Critical reasoning you were born with to recognize what they present, or you think they do, is missing in yourself. You can usually start with physical appearance, since that is the first thing that knocks us out when we see ‘the One’, notwithstanding the history that we have seen, ‘the One’, a half dozen times before, and learned nothing by pursuing it. Call that a mental weakness if you like, but generally weaknesses can be overcome with a disciplined approach to strengthening. Not so with this very unique trait in man or woman.

The psychosis that causes one to “Fall in Love”, is much harder if not impossible to simply make stronger with exercise. The self examination of that psychosis is very very tough to confront and even more resistant to repair. e.g. If you feeeeeel she is the most beautiful creature on the planet you have ever encountered, Stops your clock in its tracks, then your feeling is sabotaging you. The intelligent reaction is to immediately pull back, stop feeeeeling she is physically appealing more than you are—- although it is likely accurate that she is—- you need to now consider THAT this is the crux of what is ‘missing in you’, and which she instantly filled. You feel she is much better looking than you are, and by allying yourself with her, should she acquiesce to your other charms, you too will be better looking. You must be or she wouldn’t want to be with you. Wrong. And that’s whether or not she returns the ‘can’t get enough’ of you that you have for her. This delirious pleasure, unlike anything else on earth, than, maybe, owning Amazon at $8.00 a share, and still holding it. This oxytocin sodden neuro-chemistry result cements your obsession, and sets the fuse alight to C-4, for an eventual explosion that blows the relationship apart. It never was based in “Love”. That way be fire-breathing dragons. If you “Fall in Love”, remember you have “Fallen”. Not usually a preferred eventuality by anybody but someone with a sturdy no-fail parachute”. -Gary Rocco

RESPONSE #2 TO THE QUESTION:

“To the contrary, falling in love makes you somehow vulnerable to betrayal, lies etc. So I would think those who wish to fall in love, know the risks and are willing to take them. So no they cannot be mentally weak. I would say they have a big heart and want to share that with someone special”. -Dorothy Sciortino

RESPONSE #3 TO THE QUESTION:

“yes and no because love makes you full and strong and makes you want to keep living because you know that someone is there for you and actually cares about you but love also makes you weak because if they cheat on you or leave you or sum, you will have such a pain”. -Danii B

RESPONSE #4 TO THE QUESTION:

“Well maybe. I have seen people fall love in 24 hours and after a week they want his baby! And they wonder why the guy runs for the hills”. -Ronell Eaton

RESPONSE #5 TO THE QUESTION:

“The complete opposite. You need to be mentally strong and healthy to be able to tap into one of the highest vibrations such as love”. -Hind Tauboub

Now that you have read all of the feedback, what do you think? Please place your comment in the comment section below. I like Mr. Rocco’s break down of the word “fall” in his response. I also appreciate the distinction between love and infatuation. I believe that real love goes the distance. Meanwhile, infatuation is red hot quick and then fizzles out just as fast as it starts. Beware of infatuation since that is the one that can ruin your mind and make you go bat shit crazy! Is it possible that all bad experiences are from coming out of bad cases of infatuation? If not, it is something to at least consider. It is possible that the person that you can go the distance with is overlooked. The person is overlooked since they do not give you that magnetic attraction that one associates with love. Can we blame movie industry for that perception? Perhaps real genuine love starts out as a friendship and evolves over time to a strong affection for each other. One must have a dose of physical attraction at the very, very least. Men must have a physical attraction to even get involved with someone. I have never heard of a story where a man is not physically attracted to a woman yet continues a relationship. If there is a story, by all means share.

I kind of giggled when Mr. Rocco mentions the psychosis in reference to falling in love. I had a different perception of what psychosis is, perhaps very extreme such as a crazy mental patient. So, I looked up the definition. Psychosis is a severe mental disorder in which thought and emotions are so impaired that contact is lost with external reality. After reading the definition, I would most definitely associate it with falling in love and infatuation. I also do not know how a man or a woman takes a disciplined approach to an infatuation scenario. You just have to pray, much like a crazed mental patient, that the aftermath does not do too much damage. I most definitely understood and feared the chaos with Mr. Rocco’s account of an obsession. Taking this obsession into account, I laugh heartily at Ronell Eaton’s quip about women wanting a man’s baby 24-hours after meeting. I would describe my own marriage at 18-years old to a mutual obsession. Looking back as an older woman, I was the partner that loved harder. I often wondered how life would have been had he not passed away in a motorcycle accident? Would it have fizzled out or would have lasted a quarter of a century? I will never know that answer. My objective today, as an older woman, to find a companion that doesn’t drive me nuts with foolish behavior.

Now flip the coin from mental weakness to strength when in love. I also understand when others speak about the mental fortitude that is required to even stay in a relationship. A couple must endure and weather the ups and downs that come with a relationship. A couple must have the strength to withstand pain that comes from a partner making a mistake such as cheating. There is some serious mental Olympics that come with trying to move past a cheating partner. Partners who repeatedly make the same mistakes are a lost cause. Any time a partner’s bad behavior shifts your personality to a miserable one, it is time to push the eject button. Life is too short to consistently deal all that comes with a partner’s dirty deeds. It is one thing to make a mistake in judgement and give into weakness. It is another thing to do it whenever you feel like it while the mistress adds to the emotional grief. You pass the point of a mistake and head straight into selfish territory. Getting past that emotional stress requires a tremendous amount of mental strength. Healing and allowing yourself to be vulnerable and love again after betrayal also takes mental strength. There is a beauty with love during bad times and strength in numbers. When there is a tragedy in the family, the rest of the family members rally together to help those in mental anguish heal and move past the heartache. That is when you can truly appreciate the value of love and unity.

I appreciate Ms. Tauboub’s response that a couple must be mentally strong and healthy to tap into the highest vibration on Earth that is love. Yes, being in love is definitely on a higher frequency than being alone and/or miserable. People in love have a glow in their personality and on their external shell. Many others can tell when a person is in love since they burst at the seams with joy. No matter where you are in your life, I wish you joy and good vibes. We are all on this planet to walk our path and learn many lessons. We learn our biggest lessons with pain. The good and bad lessons give us strength and growth. I have allowed myself two years to heal from a five year relationship. Perhaps now that Covid-19 has somewhat subsided on my side of the globe, it is time to try to date. It is most sensible to sort out and heal before moving forward. The next person does not deserve to be soiled with the stains from the past. Speaking of Covid-19, I sincerely wish that the people of India get past their crisis and heal as a nation. According to the news, your people are suffering. I heard medical equipment and vaccines are coming. I sincerely wish you all well. These wishes go for other nations suffering the same plight. It is a rainy day here in New York City and we are starting to open up fully. I wish you a good hump day and the rest of the week!

Cheers!

Leslie M. Jasper

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Hello Everyone!

As I had shared over the weekend, when I got a chance to write some articles, I was away for the weekend. I hung out with friends at a condo on the beach in Seaside Heights, New Jersey. One of my friends owns the condo. It saves money on lodging to stay at his place. This is the same location where the reality show “Jersey Shore” was filmed. I thought about filming a few times over the weekend. I didn’t get much filming in when we were all getting our drink on. I am sure I will come back and hang out again soon this season. Melissa had to work plus she deals with her dog Dutch who barks too much. As of now, it makes traveling very difficult for her. My friend watched my dog Daisy for me. I got him zeppoles in return from the Boardwalk. I was happy that I didn’t gain a bunch of weight over the weekend! Kudos to Leslie for that! I just loaded up the video clips onto YouTube on my Verbally Disastrous channel. Here are five clips that I had taken over the course of the weekend:

Seaside Heights, New Jersey Boardwalk Video Clip #1:

Seaside Heights, New Jersey Boardwalk Video Clip #2:

Seaside Heights, New Jersey Boardwalk Video Clip #3:

Seaside Heights, New Jersey Boardwalk Video Clip #4:

Seaside Heights, New Jersey Boardwalk Video Clip #5:

I will have to search around for some interesting articles so I can share with you all this week. I welcome any suggestions. I need to go on my night walk to get my exercise in. I have to get a few miles in to get ready for summer. I plan to work on another Verbally Disastrous podcast episode and release it this week. I need to prep up some questions for Melissa and I to get in another episode also very soon. I thank you for stopping by to check out my content sprinkled with my truck driver mouth. I sometimes do not even realize that I am cursing. I tend to say what is on my mind. In that process, I lace my thoughts with some profanity. I can’t promise to clean up my act either. 😛 Wherever you are in the world, thanks for stopping by. Please support my YouTube channel and I shall do the same. You must let me know since my crystal ball is broken and in the repair shop. You are appreciated for finding me in the sea of content on the internet. Have a good Monday evening and the rest of the work week!

Cheers!

Leslie M. Jasper

-Author & Host of the #VerballyDisastrous podcast now alive on Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Deezer, Google Podcasts, Pocket Casts, Radio Public, Soundcloud, Spotify, and YouTube.  Other platforms include: Acast, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Player FM, Pod Bean, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Podchaser, Stitcher, Tune In.

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Hello Everyone!

I just came home from a weekend of relaxing and foolery at Seaside Heights in New Jersey. Seaside Heights is where the reality show “Jersey Shore” was filmed. My close friend Chris has a spot on the beach. Chris’ condo is at the end; south of the boardwalk. We had fun drinking White Claw black cherry hard seltzers, sitting in the sun, and bullshitting with our group. It was super windy on Friday but very warm (82 degrees F) by Sunday. However, it is too cold to go in the pool just yet. Of course, my friends were joking around saying that I would go in the cold water anyways. My nickname, at times, is “the polar bear” since I prefer cold to heat any day. I was the designated driver to get us back to my close girlfriend Tara’s house. I then made the trek to get back home to unpack and rest. I feel tired from the sun and the antics that occured over the weekend. I had to stop for bathroom breaks for these drunk ass fools way too much this evening! 🙂 I got my second wind now that I am home so I am writing out and sharing this interesting article. I was looking for some inspiration with my blog and found it in no time. 😛 This article is about an arrest of a man in England, back in April of 2011, on racism charges. These charges were mounted as a result of the band performing the 1970’s classic song entitled, “Kung Fu Fighting” performed by Carl Douglas. Now let’s dive into this drama and see how it unfolded. For anyone unaware of the original song, here it is on YouTube:

Since I am a born and raised citizen from the United States, getting arrested for just singing a song is absolutely insane and humorous!! We are accustomed to our First Amendment right from our Constitution. The First Amendment right is the freedom of speech, religion, and the press. I get so accustomed to my rights at an American citizen, I forget that there are no protection of free speech in other parts of the world. I am saddened for people around the globe who are not protected by those same liberties. When I first read the article, I thought the singer may have also physically assaulted the man who complained. Physically assaulting a person would be the reason to get arrested, here in the U.S., or damaging property. The arrest of 34-year old singer Simon Ledger, from the town of Shanklin, happened during a meeting with the Hampshire police as a result of an official complaint. The police reached out to Mr. Ledger and followed up on the complaint in the evening after the band wrapped up playing their set. The incident occurred while Mr. Ledger and his band were in the middle of their set earlier in the day. Mr. Ledger and his band were performing at the Driftwood Beach Bar on the Isle of Wright that is located off the southern coast of England. The band was playing the classic hit, originally performed by Carl Douglas, “Kung Fu Fighting“. While the band was performing the song, this was where the Chinese man believed he was under racial attack.

Upon meeting with the Hampshire police, Mr. Ledger discovered that a 32-year old male, of Chinese descent, had called the police to complain about the band’s performance. In England, anyone who perceives that they are the victim of a racially aggravated crime are entitled to make a report to the police. Mr. Ledger recalled the “victim”, accompanied by his mother, since they walked past the band and started cursing and making obscene hand gestures. The unnamed Chinese man then took a photo with his cell phone after his tirade. He made sure to gather his evidence to ensure the correct band gets into legal trouble. Well played sir, well played! The irony was that Mr. Ledger received a phone call from the police on this matter while he was eating at a Chinese restaurant after the gig. At first, Mr. Ledger thought the police were joking around with him. The article seemed to lead you to the vibe that the police officers had also thought the complaint was ridiculous. However, the officers must follow and uphold the law plus investigate the matter. There is nothing like a slap of handcuffs on the wrists to let you know things are serious! According to the police report, the victim was “subjected to racial abuse”. The police, no matter how ridiculous, were bound to follow the law and arrest the lead singer. According to Mr. Ledger, people from all walks of life come to watch them perform and enjoy the song with no prior issues.

Mr. Ledger was released shortly after his arrest without being charged. He was released on “street bail” until the following Monday. Mr. Ledger was suspected of causing harassment, alarm, or distress. After his release, the police’s next move was to investigate and question him further at a later date. The police refer to the situation as “political correctness gone potty”. This British phrase means that the situation has gone crazy. The owner of the bar, his name is Sean Ware, defended the lead singer and the band. He doesn’t believe the band intended any abuse nor are they racists. The owner also had the same sentiment about the song. Mr. Ware stated, “the song is in no way racist and nor is Simon. There is no way he would abuse anyone”. In a later article, it was determined that there was not enough evidence to prove a criminal offense had been committed. Upon the determination, the singer would face no further action. Mr. Ledger reasonably feared that he would inherit a criminal record as a result of this incident. However, he must not have worried about it too much since he opted to reach out to the complainant on his Facebook profile. Mr. Ledger boldly wrote, “If the lad who phoned the police is reading this, WHAT IS WONG WITH YOU? Sorry, what is wrong with you?”

I was riding with the singer until I saw what he had chosen such nonsense to write on his Facebook. Why taunt the guy?? It is not a good look to write that nor was it necessary. He could have pushed the investigation to actually receiving legal problems from that statement! He had previously looked innocent or unassuming prior with singing the song. He now looks like an absolute fool for writing that! Why provoke a criminal situation further with writing something on the internet? Writings on the internet do not go away once posted. Imagine if he would have gotten locked up for writing that for years? Now that is something that I would laugh at his foolish ass! He would get the “donkey” award of the year if that actually happened. Hopefully, he can pull his head out of his ass and remove the song from his set. I know I sure would remove it. Why give some clown some power over me via possible jail time? Especially if more people complain. I would not think the song is that important to dig one’s heels in and keep it. Besides, it is a stupid song. I am sure it had it’s run back in the day when it was first written and performed. Some songs belong back in the 1970’s where they came from. What do you think about this story? Do you know of a similar type of story? Please share in the comments and I will try to look it up and write about it. Thanks for taking the time to read or listen and laugh at my content! I hope you are rested up for the upcoming week at hand. Have a good one and I will badger you soon!

Cheers!

Leslie M. Jasper

-Author & Host of the #VerballyDisastrous podcast now alive on Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Deezer, Google Podcasts, Pocket Casts, Radio Public, Soundcloud, Spotify, and YouTube. Other platforms include: Acast, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Player FM, Pod Bean, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Podchaser, Stitcher, Tune In.

-The Audio Blog: Verbally Disastrous Podcast & Construction Tales Blog. Now available on: Apple Podcasts, Anchor, Breaker, Deezer, Google Podcasts, Pocket Casts, Radio Public, and Spotify. I will announce more platforms very soon.

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