Advice On Dodging Unsolicited Feedback

Hello Everyone!

I hope you are having a way better work week than myself. I have been off the grid lately dealing with many things. I had the painful process of replacing my SUV that is still ongoing. I had to clean up a basement that was filled with stuff that got ruined by Hurricane Ida. I am now trying to carve out time to check out some questions on Quora. I have a few to drop on you at once. I found some more questions geared for me on Quora and this one caught my eye. I had it in draft mode for awhile and I recently re-discovered it. It discusses how to ‘politely’ tell another person, who is offering unsolicited advice, to ‘mind their own business’. I am aware that everyone has a different style of communication. Obviously, I am not afraid of speaking or writing out how I feel. I am aware that this is a challenge for many people either verbally or written. Different cultures also present their own unique way of handling this issue. Perhaps you are not looking to offend the other party. However, you also don’t want to take the advice of the other party either. I tend to value the input of others since we all think differently. I’m aware that cutting off another person’s advice could stunt my growth in the future. On the other hand, the person giving advice is not going to actually face the consequences of the actual action taken. Therefore, it is my choice. What is your communication style? Do you tend to rub people the wrong way when you tell people to back off? Are you afraid of hurting feelings so you just let them talk? Do you boldly move in the direction you want to go while no one is looking? Do you greatly fear the backlash of the person offering advice? Are there consequences for ignoring the other party? I tend to thank people for their input and somewhat finesse them. You can never go wrong with thanking a person for their input. I then make my own decision and action with or without an audience or an apology. I have been on my own since I was 17-years old so I don’t fear pissing anyone off. The only person I would take their input into serious consideration would be my significant other- if he existed. Since he doesn’t currently exist, my decisions are all mine to make 100%- ha-ha-ha!! If it involved my sons, I would have to have their feelings in consideration. I’m grateful for being free to do as I wish. I greatly feel for you if you are forced to kiss another person’s ass via listening to their opinion. When you make your own money, you make your own rules! 😛 Here is the posed question and my offered response below. Check out the Q & A down below for now.

POSED QUESTION:

“What are some clever or subtle ways in which you’ve said others to ‘mind their own business’?”

by Andrew Ray

MY RESPONSE:

“I usually finesse the person offering either solicited or unsolicited advice. I thank them for their input since that is the right thing to do. I then follow up with my honest impending approach to the decision. I don’t know if it is considered clever or subtle. To me, a subtle move would be to not announce it and make the move in silence and in the dark. Always remember it is your decision and your risk or reward at the end. Here are some samples of my style of finesse and letting the person know my final decision.
Thank you kindly for your concern and advice. It is time for me to step up to the plate and make a decision that will either be my risk or reward.
I understand why you think the way you do. However, I need to make the decision that works for my household.
I typically listen and value your input and thank you for your guidance. I feel strongly about my position so I plan to follow my gut instinct.
You offed some great feedback that is highly appreciated and I will take it into consideration when I weigh my options and make my decision.
After the finesse part, pull the trigger and either make your own move when no one is watching or in broad daylight. Either way, stick by your decision. I wish you much luck and success!”

Leslie M. Jasper

https://www.quora.com/What-are-some-clever-or-subtle-ways-in-which-youve-said-others-to-mind-their-own-business/answer/Leslie-Jasper-3?prompt_topic_bio=1

Let me know what you think about the advice? Now, try to enjoy what is left of Thursday on a humid yet nice sunny day. Yes, I am sharing my two recently added Amazon Music links to both the Audio Blog and Podcast at the bottom of this post below. Here is my latest podcast that was released. Check out Podcast Episode #33: Hurricane Ida Visited New York City Last Week!! that is on the podcast platform of choice and YouTube. I thank you for stopping by my blog. I wish you a good Thursday morning/afternoon/evening on your side of the globe this week.

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I released another short story on working with one of the worst apprentices, who earned the nickname Lucky, in the history of my career. The unique thing about this guy was that EVERYONE I worked with also had huge challenges working with the guy. As an apprentice, it is our obligation to teach them as journeyman/woman. In turn, it is their obligation to absorb what we teach and move accordingly. I even took the time to break down the task into a step-by-step method. He would then go do what he wanted and it was an absolute disaster. Out of anyone in the shop, I had the most patience with him. This is a guy that would never ever be able to become a contractor and work on his own. He was missing many key characteristics that it takes in order to work on a project from cradle to grave solo. I now have shared (7) short stories to my Kindle Vella Library. They are short stories that will become the makings of my next book within the #ConstructionTales series that will be entitled, Construction Tales: Volume II: My Illuminated Path Continues.. Construction Tales: Told By A Woman by Leslie M. Jasper- short stories for Kindle Vella on Amazon:

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Cheers!
Leslie M. Jasper

-Author And Host of the #VerballyDisastrous podcast now alive on many platforms that include: Acast, Amazon Music, Anchor, Apple Podcasts, Breaker, Castbox, Deezer, Google Podcasts, I Heart Radio, Listen Notes, Overcast, Pandora Podcasts, Player FM, Pocket Casts, Pod Bean, Podchaser, Podcast Addict, Podcast Gang, Radio Public, Soundcloud, Soundtrap, Spotify, Stitcher, Tune In, and YouTube.

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